"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Please limit newcomer numbers.

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I've found that the forum join rate is growing phenomenally and it really stresses me and others out as being one of the top voices in the High School forum to get quite so many PMs and IMs asking for help and such. I love to help out, but not in such phenomenally high numbers. It's a bit too much for me, and I speak on many members behalves here. The board that grows fastest is the HS forum, as the social structres change and more people seek advice from the internet, as friends at that age are not helpful.

So this is what I propose: take the average number of newbies, and document it. Let's say it's 10 per day. I propose you take the average number of signups, and cut it in half (5). That is how many people are allowed to register daily. Or maybe 2/3 (7) of the average.

This won't overload bandwidth with repetitive questions, it will make moderator's job easier, less spammers, less likely banned people to come back, and increased productivity. Mr. Thompson, if you invest time and money into the forum as you do, I'm sure you'll notice it will be an improvement, and a big one at that.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you'll consider this to an extent.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I suppose you all are so stunned by my idea that you did not reply?

Seriously. I'd like some opinions on this.
 
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Ya, something like that, or just make it so they can only post x amount of times or send x amount of private messages every week or something along those lines.
 
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Originally posted by whatsupwiddat
I suppose you all are so stunned by my idea that you did not reply?

Seriously. I'd like some opinions on this.
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Shock and awe, baby.

But no. It's not gonna happen. Or I seriously doubt it will happen.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"Mind telling me why?"

Maybe if you're so "stressed out" a more effective way to limit the amount of people asking you questions would be to stop saying things like this...

- "Anyone who wants my help can IM me or PM me anytime they please... Come on newbies, throw me your questions!"

" [I am one of the] top voices in the High School forum"

- "Thanks for those of you who posted, PMed and emailed. It was greatly appreciated and I have a treat for all of you!"

- "I have decided that it's time to make the greatest post EVER."

Maybe, WUWD, if you stopped trying to promote yourself as some sort of master who has the ability to solve every problem known to high-schoolers, your problem would magically disappear. The fact is, if you could solve these problems, the amount of registered users at the high school forum wouldn't be growing exponentially, but decreasing.

Sorry to come down so hard, but I'm just tired of seeing countless self-promoting posts, posts about how you're smarter than "the masses", that a counsellor has told you that you are "one brick short of brilliancy", and how people who disagree with you should "stay quiet" if they have "any pride and/or common sense".

- De La
 
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Re: "Mind telling me why?"

Originally posted by De La Soul

Maybe, WUWD, if you stopped trying to promote yourself as some sort of master who has the ability to solve every problem known to high-schoolers, your problem would magically disappear- De La
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You-mouth-the-took-right-out-of-my-words...:eek:

The Edge ' Some have it, and some don't '
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Re: "Mind telling me why?"

Originally posted by De La Soul
Maybe if you're so "stressed out" a more effective way to limit the amount of people asking you questions would be to stop saying things like this...

- "Anyone who wants my help can IM me or PM me anytime they please... Come on newbies, throw me your questions!"

" [I am one of the] top voices in the High School forum"

- "Thanks for those of you who posted, PMed and emailed. It was greatly appreciated and I have a treat for all of you!"

- "I have decided that it's time to make the greatest post EVER."

Maybe, WUWD, if you stopped trying to promote yourself as some sort of master who has the ability to solve every problem known to high-schoolers, your problem would magically disappear. The fact is, if you could solve these problems, the amount of registered users at the high school forum wouldn't be growing exponentially, but decreasing.

Sorry to come down so hard, but I'm just tired of seeing countless self-promoting posts, posts about how you're smarter than "the masses", that a counsellor has told you that you are "one brick short of brilliancy", and how people who disagree with you should "stay quiet" if they have "any pride and/or common sense".

- De La
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Good idea.
 
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Re: "Mind telling me why?"

Originally posted by De La Soul
Maybe if you're so "stressed out" a more effective way to limit the amount of people asking you questions would be to stop saying things like this...

- "Anyone who wants my help can IM me or PM me anytime they please... Come on newbies, throw me your questions!"

" [I am one of the] top voices in the High School forum"

- "Thanks for those of you who posted, PMed and emailed. It was greatly appreciated and I have a treat for all of you!"

- "I have decided that it's time to make the greatest post EVER."

Maybe, WUWD, if you stopped trying to promote yourself as some sort of master who has the ability to solve every problem known to high-schoolers, your problem would magically disappear. The fact is, if you could solve these problems, the amount of registered users at the high school forum wouldn't be growing exponentially, but decreasing.

Sorry to come down so hard, but I'm just tired of seeing countless self-promoting posts, posts about how you're smarter than "the masses", that a counsellor has told you that you are "one brick short of brilliancy", and how people who disagree with you should "stay quiet" if they have "any pride and/or common sense".

- De La
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exactly
 
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Ahh, being the learned individual in programming I am :) (not really)

I have a suggestion.


How about when a Newbie makes a post, if the title contains certain phrases like "How long do I wait" or "What do I do if I like" etc, then the phrase is entered into the search box, then searched on sossuave, after that, the noob gets a list of all the matching topics alredy posted.

They then have the option of going through posts which are already made and finding the answer, or they can choose to submit their post anyway (in case they didnt find anything that helped).

You can keep tabs on Newbies by sending them cookies to check and see which parts of teh bible they have viewed, so in case they ask a quaetin abouta part they havent viewed, a little messege can direct them to that section :)

But thats of course if you want to go to the trouble of writing code for all of that, personally I dont mind things the way they are.
 
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