"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SamTheHobit

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Is trying to get an ex gf back for good, like trying to punch air?

My ex just keep creeping back to my mind its been three months of no contact and im still not over her. I dont know what to do.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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First if all you should explain the whole situation the brake up and everything what happend and whats happening.
 

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If she dumped you, which I believe is the case from the way you're talking...

then yes, you can get her back, but its a long and arduous process involving severe game build up on your behalf...

If you're willing to put in the hours and effort in order to make yourself a man once again in her eyes, then the work starts now.

You must remember, that if you do choose to win her back, the relationship will never be the same again, and anytime you pvssy out and put her on a pedestal, she'll be gone like a shot.

So...is she truly worth it?

Good luck.
 

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Cherokee said:
If she dumped you, which I believe is the case from the way you're talking...

then yes, you can get her back, but its a long and arduous process involving severe game build up on your behalf...

If you're willing to put in the hours and effort in order to make yourself a man once again in her eyes, then the work starts now.

You must remember, that if you do choose to win her back, the relationship will never be the same again, and anytime you pvssy out and put her on a pedestal, she'll be gone like a shot.

So...is she truly worth it?

Good luck.
Would you care to elaborate?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well I'd personally recommend NOT doing it. Because you're only thinking about her because of a lack of other options.

On the other hand, and not to pull the age card...but you're freakin 17. Go ahead and try, and learn from the mistake, and move on. Let's face it, as much as you miss this girl right now, 5 years from now you'll struggle to even remember her name.
 

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Would you care to elaborate?
Sure thing bro.

With my first proper gf, I made classic mistakes, it was a 4 year relationships, during which time we broke up twice.

I turned my sh!t around and managed to get her again, but by that point the respect for one another was almost gone.

Firstly, STOP ALL CONTACT WITH YOUR EX. ALL OF IT. THE GREATEST ASSET A MAN HAS IS HIS ATTENTION. Giver her attention when she's done something that pleases you and withdraw it when she displeases you.

secondly, have you read the book of Pook in the DJ bible? that's a great starting point for building inner confidence and realising your place in the world.

Thirdly, you need to put your self on a path of self development, I wrote about this in another thread.

1. Build up your confidence, do this by working out, dress better, look awesome to feel awesome.

2. Get an amazing social life, make new friends, MEET NEW WOMEN (make your ex jealous= jealously is the most powerful emotion that a human can experience) go out and do new things. Push your social limits.

3. Get interesting and varied hobbies, ones that you can talk about and are fulfilling.

4. Get a job if you haven't got one, earn some $$ provide for yourself.

5. Lastly, once you've been on the path of self development for some time, your ex has to know about it (if she already doesn't) by "bumping into her" at a mutual gig. This can be a house party/birthday bash/music concert, hell it can be anywhere that both of you will be amongst many of your friends.

The last part is key, it is for her to witness your transformation and instantly regret breaking up with you. Then you play it smooth and reel her in over the following months.

Like I said, its a LONG process, you will not win her back over night, and this is only a 99% guaranteed success rate. There is a 1% chance that she has no interest left for you... but you should work on self improvement for YOURSELF anyway ;)

Lastly, have self respect, stay true to yourself, realise you are a man and go have some fun.
 

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wait a second... if you are only 17 why has this chick got you by the balls?

Let me tell you now that the girls you meet when you're 17 are not worth anything more than high school thrills.

GO HAVE FUN.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why the hell would you want to get back with an Ex. Your heart is leaning towards her but use your brain now. Go outside and observe how many girls you see. Too many to be trippin about one.
 
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