"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SamTheHobit

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Is trying to get an ex gf back for good, like trying to punch air?

My ex just keep creeping back to my mind its been three months of no contact and im still not over her. I dont know what to do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First if all you should explain the whole situation the brake up and everything what happend and whats happening.
 

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If she dumped you, which I believe is the case from the way you're talking...

then yes, you can get her back, but its a long and arduous process involving severe game build up on your behalf...

If you're willing to put in the hours and effort in order to make yourself a man once again in her eyes, then the work starts now.

You must remember, that if you do choose to win her back, the relationship will never be the same again, and anytime you pvssy out and put her on a pedestal, she'll be gone like a shot.

So...is she truly worth it?

Good luck.
 

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Cherokee said:
If she dumped you, which I believe is the case from the way you're talking...

then yes, you can get her back, but its a long and arduous process involving severe game build up on your behalf...

If you're willing to put in the hours and effort in order to make yourself a man once again in her eyes, then the work starts now.

You must remember, that if you do choose to win her back, the relationship will never be the same again, and anytime you pvssy out and put her on a pedestal, she'll be gone like a shot.

So...is she truly worth it?

Good luck.
Would you care to elaborate?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Mantis Toboggan

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Well I'd personally recommend NOT doing it. Because you're only thinking about her because of a lack of other options.

On the other hand, and not to pull the age card...but you're freakin 17. Go ahead and try, and learn from the mistake, and move on. Let's face it, as much as you miss this girl right now, 5 years from now you'll struggle to even remember her name.
 

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Would you care to elaborate?
Sure thing bro.

With my first proper gf, I made classic mistakes, it was a 4 year relationships, during which time we broke up twice.

I turned my sh!t around and managed to get her again, but by that point the respect for one another was almost gone.

Firstly, STOP ALL CONTACT WITH YOUR EX. ALL OF IT. THE GREATEST ASSET A MAN HAS IS HIS ATTENTION. Giver her attention when she's done something that pleases you and withdraw it when she displeases you.

secondly, have you read the book of Pook in the DJ bible? that's a great starting point for building inner confidence and realising your place in the world.

Thirdly, you need to put your self on a path of self development, I wrote about this in another thread.

1. Build up your confidence, do this by working out, dress better, look awesome to feel awesome.

2. Get an amazing social life, make new friends, MEET NEW WOMEN (make your ex jealous= jealously is the most powerful emotion that a human can experience) go out and do new things. Push your social limits.

3. Get interesting and varied hobbies, ones that you can talk about and are fulfilling.

4. Get a job if you haven't got one, earn some $$ provide for yourself.

5. Lastly, once you've been on the path of self development for some time, your ex has to know about it (if she already doesn't) by "bumping into her" at a mutual gig. This can be a house party/birthday bash/music concert, hell it can be anywhere that both of you will be amongst many of your friends.

The last part is key, it is for her to witness your transformation and instantly regret breaking up with you. Then you play it smooth and reel her in over the following months.

Like I said, its a LONG process, you will not win her back over night, and this is only a 99% guaranteed success rate. There is a 1% chance that she has no interest left for you... but you should work on self improvement for YOURSELF anyway ;)

Lastly, have self respect, stay true to yourself, realise you are a man and go have some fun.
 

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wait a second... if you are only 17 why has this chick got you by the balls?

Let me tell you now that the girls you meet when you're 17 are not worth anything more than high school thrills.

GO HAVE FUN.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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Why the hell would you want to get back with an Ex. Your heart is leaning towards her but use your brain now. Go outside and observe how many girls you see. Too many to be trippin about one.
 
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