"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dear DJ Forum Members,

in advance I ask you to forgive me for my bad english.

I write from Italy.

I need an advice in dealing with this issue.

I knew some months ago a nice girl in my workplace. We shared the same room for 1 month. Then she has been transferred in another office of my company.

I established a very good rapport with her in that month. I think that I had been able to do so because I thought that I had nothing to lose with her: she has a boyfriend and she lives with him...(GULP!!!!).

After she left my office we're stayin always in touch. She writes me many many e-mails and, since we have more interest in common, we went out togheter (alone) in the city sometimes to attend exhibitions, theater performances, have a drink etc...

I like very much to spend time with her and she seems to me also enjoying the time that she spends with me.

Sometimes she tells me about his boyfriend, that sometimes is jealous that she goes out only with me etc...

I arranged a meeting with her for friday afternoon (italian time).

As you certainly understood I would like more from her, I would like to be her boyfriend!!! because I like her very much.

So do you think that I could have any chances???

May you suggest to me how to behave in next meetings (starting from Friday)?

Am I completely mad in saying so?

If you need more informations yto answer please ask.

Thank A Lot!

Best Regards,

Single
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I reply not having my question lost in the list....

Please if you can give me some suggestions.

Thanks
 
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You could just be a friend to her because she has a boyfriend.

She could have some interest in you. Since she will go on little dates with you alone.

But, In all honesty. She most likely wont leave her boyfriend for you. I would go out and meet new girls.
 
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I.A.F.Y.B. thank you for your answer.

I also think that is probably as you think. I don't want lose much time but I want to try only to say to myself "At least I tried" but only if there is a way to do thing in the right way.

Anybody out there have other suggestion?

Thanks
 
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