"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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please help me, this girls very confusing

TheCommonreactor

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for anyone who doesnt know my other story, pretty much ivve been crazy about this girl for a couple years now. she coddles with me a lot and shows interest me round school, always wanting my attention and such. well the other night i was at a party with her, a bunch of our friends got wasted and baked, so since we both wernt doing any of that stuff i was like "lets get out of here" so we went down to the local park and layed in the grass, cuddling closely, and watching the rain come in (didnt rain that much, if you care lol). after a bit of talking she asked me what was on my mind, and i did something everyone here would recommend not doing, i told her how i felt about her. she was pretty surprised that i liked her, and she said she just wants us to stay friends, but has mixed feelings for me now that she became single(like a couple months ago). after a bit of talking, she started to wonder why i liked her, bc, for some reason, she has low self-esteem. so i told her how beautiful i thought she was and stuff then we decided to head back to the party bc it was almost 1AM. as we were walking back, arms around eachother very closely, she stops me. she looks into my eyes and kisses me. not once, but a couple times and then eventually works it into a hug, and she whispers "your still you, im sorry" now, right now you can imagine how confused and stuned i am. after taking in what had just happened i told her "well, how could you tell all your feelings from one kiss? i wasnt even expecting that..." she smiled and started to kiss me again, and this time i was a lil more ready to work my magic, but she said she still didnt feel anything.

wtf.

i doubt anyone can tell something like that from one kiss, especially since she was so happy to kiss me again...

anyways, i really need some advice. today i decided that i was gunna take her into the city for the day on satuday and take her to lunch and stuff, but its a surprise, all she knows is im taking her somewhere. i dont know if i should bring up this past weekend or to just keep going like nothing happened and maybe try to persuade her feelings for me. i dont really feel like taking her into the city for lunch and then having her be like "thanks for the food, and yeah, bc u asked, i dont have feelings for you"

BUT I HAVE NO IDEA. sry for the caps, haha, this is very frustrating, any help would be nice.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Five To One

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Don't bring up last week and don't talk about your feelings more. Don't let the conversation turn to feelings or deep thoughts. Do have a good time and act normal.

Then next time you hang out with her have it be alone in privacy. She kissed you for christ sake, you dont need any more signs to see if she likes you. Make a move and make out with her already. She wants you to do it.

"your still you, im sorry" I would guess means you didnt take control of the situation. "Your still you" as in you, and not a man. Plus you said she was surprised when you said you liked her. She was shocked you have sexual feelings. It sounds like you have been playing the role of a best friend.


Learn how to let girls know your interested subtlely and dont wait till the girl kisses you next time.


Bottem line is she likes you but only if you change your mindset and act like a man who wants her.
 

f283000

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great post above me! you need to show some passion bro. Sit in a bench somewhere and give her the makeout session of her life! take her breath away, then you will never have your manhood questioned again! oh yeah btw don't talk about your FN feelings, let her talk about hers.
 

Pdizzzzzzle

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dont bring it up. dont hang on one girl for too long, unless your sure your gaining ground.
 

TheCommonreactor

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five to one your so right its scary.

thanks guys, time for me to stop being a ***** *cracks knuckles*....owe...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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