Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Please Help Me I Need Advice

blink15_107

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I have been having drunken hook ups with this one girl for about a month now and I only hang out with her a little outside of parties. Last time I was making out with her and she stopped and said "I hope you don't think of me as your drunken hook up buddy because I actually like you. Do you like me?" I told her I did, who wouldn't in that situation. She sent me several texts later that night telling me she really did like me and she wasn't saying that because she had been drinking. My first question is should I start calling her more often, other than just on weekends, if I do in fact like her? I am having trouble answering this for myself because she never really makes any effort to call or text me other than when we party together, so I am unsure if she really does like me or if she was saying that because she doesn't want to feel like a slut. Also I have asked her to go out on a date a few times now and she has been busy both times, but the last time I asked she said she did really want to go but couldn't.

Also, I ended up hooking up with another girl the night after I said I liked her too. So my second question is how is she most likely to respond if she finds out (which is very likely because one of her friends saw me)? I am not sure if this would matter but, when I was hooking up with this other girl is how I found out I do like the original girl back because I was thinking of her the whole time and was immediately worried she could find out and not take it well.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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pimpinISeasy

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are you sure she didn't already find out? maybe thats why shes been acting strange but doesnt want to bring it up and come off as jealous ?
 

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I am pretty sure she hasnt found out yet. She started acting strange before that happened anyways
 

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Yeah, I'd say try met up with her more when your not drunk, or in the process of getting drunk, you said you already have a little but just try a little more. There is nothing to lose by doing this really.
But then again, she seemed a bit flakey on the date thing ask her one or two times again if she says busy make sure she is somehow if you can but if she keeps saying no... next

And with the other hook up, i'm going to go with ignore it, If you were drunk when you hooked up with her, just use that excuse, but just ignore it
 

kraytkiller

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Yeah, like Analyzeit said, call her up to go out like 1 or 2 more times, and if she is too busy for that forget about it. If she can't make the time to be with you she must not like you as much as she thinks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kevin Feng

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No need to tell her about the other girl. You guys aren't dating anyway, and that isn't really her business in anycase.

Perhaps she really was busy, but from what it sounds like, chances are she really just doesn't like to be perceived as a slut.

It doesn't really sound like you're THAT into her anyway, and if that's the case, just pull the trigger next time you're out partying with her. You'll get tipsy and so will she and things will just "happen".

Just make sure you pull the trigger, the worst experience is knowing you could have done something and then all of a sudden, she's off with a new guy or she becomes disinterested.

-Kevin
 
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