"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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forgottenDreams

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Sirs,

I'm still struggling when it comes to picking up the "not interested" clues from a woman. My journey continues...

I have 2 questions really:
1. Can a woman (in her 30s) be genuine when if she says (after one date only) "as much as those kisses feel good, I really want to get to know you better before I can truly enjoy them".

2. Wouldn't not contacting a girl for a day or two make you look like you play games especially if you contact her 2 days later after this period of silence? My argument is if you contact her eventually (after two days) it obviously means you are interested in her, which automatically tells her you were purposely holding yourself back for the 2 days of silence since it only takes 5 seconds to send a quick text, and you didn't.

Thanks in advance, very much appreciated!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HalfPUAHalfAFC

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forgottenDreams said:
Sirs,

I'm still struggling when it comes to picking up the "not interested" clues from a woman. My journey continues...

I have 2 questions really:
1. Can a woman (in her 30s) be genuine when if she says (after one date only) "as much as those kisses feel good, I really want to get to know you better before I can truly enjoy them".

2. Wouldn't not contacting a girl for a day or two make you look like you play games especially if you contact her 2 days later after this period of silence? My argument is if you contact her eventually (after two days) it obviously means you are interested in her, which automatically tells her you were purposely holding yourself back for the 2 days of silence since it only takes 5 seconds to send a quick text, and you didn't.

Thanks in advance, very much appreciated!
1. If her interest level was high, she would not say this. I would say it's about medium. If it was high, he'd be happy to jump your bones. Her jury is still out, but usually it does not spike to high, especially if you blow up her phone, act needy, etc. Play it cool.... and thus your second question.

2. If you contact her too soon, it will be apparent to her you have no options. Women like men that other women like. Don't have a conversation with her on text. Find out what is going on around town, make plans for yourself to go do it. A day before it happens, text her, tell her you are going and that she should come with you. If you try to keep up rapport via text, it will backfire. Use it to get her out. If you go by what you say above--i.e., wait two days and then just text BS with her--you'll definitely give off the wrong impression. You're busy and have things do to and she's not on your mind all day. Go see a band, hit a museum opening, go to happy hour, and just invite her to join you.
 

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I agree with HalfPUA. Blowing up her phone is detrimental. So what if you don't contact her for 2 days? Infatuation begins when you are NOT together. You have to be busy, into many things, and she is just coming along for the ride. If she doesn't like it, see ya! If she truly is into you, she will see it as a fun op to hang with you, and genuinely spend the time and effort to enter in an LTR.

Any other up and down, cold and hot behavior is will lead to a fling.
 

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forgottenDreams said:
Sirs,

I'm still struggling when it comes to picking up the "not interested" clues from a woman. My journey continues...

There are so many damn not interested clues it's unreal.

I have 2 questions really:
1. Can a woman (in her 30s) be genuine when if she says (after one date only) "as much as those kisses feel good, I really want to get to know you better before I can truly enjoy them".

Hell no. No woman, regardless of age can be genuine if she says some sh*t like this. If her interest is high, she wouldn't confuse you, and would get on you quick. Would she say this to Brad Pitt or George Clooney?

2. Wouldn't not contacting a girl for a day or two make you look like you play games especially if you contact her 2 days later after this period of silence? My argument is if you contact her eventually (after two days) it obviously means you are interested in her, which automatically tells her you were purposely holding yourself back for the 2 days of silence since it only takes 5 seconds to send a quick text, and you didn't.

Don't blow up her phone. I'd go ghost on her for a while. I work 2 jobs right now. I spend more time making money, but so much so that I don't have a lot of time for dating, which is a turn off. Especially in Atlanta, where women want working men who ALREADY MADE IT. Anyways, you gotta keep her on her toes, and always spin plates. Women do it all the time, and they always have options.

Thanks in advance, very much appreciated!

It's amazing what men gotta do to get some love ain't it? Always know when to walk.
Read between th- My point of view.

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