"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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forgottenDreams

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Sirs,

I'm still struggling when it comes to picking up the "not interested" clues from a woman. My journey continues...

I have 2 questions really:
1. Can a woman (in her 30s) be genuine when if she says (after one date only) "as much as those kisses feel good, I really want to get to know you better before I can truly enjoy them".

2. Wouldn't not contacting a girl for a day or two make you look like you play games especially if you contact her 2 days later after this period of silence? My argument is if you contact her eventually (after two days) it obviously means you are interested in her, which automatically tells her you were purposely holding yourself back for the 2 days of silence since it only takes 5 seconds to send a quick text, and you didn't.

Thanks in advance, very much appreciated!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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forgottenDreams said:
Sirs,

I'm still struggling when it comes to picking up the "not interested" clues from a woman. My journey continues...

I have 2 questions really:
1. Can a woman (in her 30s) be genuine when if she says (after one date only) "as much as those kisses feel good, I really want to get to know you better before I can truly enjoy them".

2. Wouldn't not contacting a girl for a day or two make you look like you play games especially if you contact her 2 days later after this period of silence? My argument is if you contact her eventually (after two days) it obviously means you are interested in her, which automatically tells her you were purposely holding yourself back for the 2 days of silence since it only takes 5 seconds to send a quick text, and you didn't.

Thanks in advance, very much appreciated!
1. If her interest level was high, she would not say this. I would say it's about medium. If it was high, he'd be happy to jump your bones. Her jury is still out, but usually it does not spike to high, especially if you blow up her phone, act needy, etc. Play it cool.... and thus your second question.

2. If you contact her too soon, it will be apparent to her you have no options. Women like men that other women like. Don't have a conversation with her on text. Find out what is going on around town, make plans for yourself to go do it. A day before it happens, text her, tell her you are going and that she should come with you. If you try to keep up rapport via text, it will backfire. Use it to get her out. If you go by what you say above--i.e., wait two days and then just text BS with her--you'll definitely give off the wrong impression. You're busy and have things do to and she's not on your mind all day. Go see a band, hit a museum opening, go to happy hour, and just invite her to join you.
 

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I agree with HalfPUA. Blowing up her phone is detrimental. So what if you don't contact her for 2 days? Infatuation begins when you are NOT together. You have to be busy, into many things, and she is just coming along for the ride. If she doesn't like it, see ya! If she truly is into you, she will see it as a fun op to hang with you, and genuinely spend the time and effort to enter in an LTR.

Any other up and down, cold and hot behavior is will lead to a fling.
 

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forgottenDreams said:
Sirs,

I'm still struggling when it comes to picking up the "not interested" clues from a woman. My journey continues...

There are so many damn not interested clues it's unreal.

I have 2 questions really:
1. Can a woman (in her 30s) be genuine when if she says (after one date only) "as much as those kisses feel good, I really want to get to know you better before I can truly enjoy them".

Hell no. No woman, regardless of age can be genuine if she says some sh*t like this. If her interest is high, she wouldn't confuse you, and would get on you quick. Would she say this to Brad Pitt or George Clooney?

2. Wouldn't not contacting a girl for a day or two make you look like you play games especially if you contact her 2 days later after this period of silence? My argument is if you contact her eventually (after two days) it obviously means you are interested in her, which automatically tells her you were purposely holding yourself back for the 2 days of silence since it only takes 5 seconds to send a quick text, and you didn't.

Don't blow up her phone. I'd go ghost on her for a while. I work 2 jobs right now. I spend more time making money, but so much so that I don't have a lot of time for dating, which is a turn off. Especially in Atlanta, where women want working men who ALREADY MADE IT. Anyways, you gotta keep her on her toes, and always spin plates. Women do it all the time, and they always have options.

Thanks in advance, very much appreciated!

It's amazing what men gotta do to get some love ain't it? Always know when to walk.
Read between th- My point of view.

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