Dhoulmagus
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Whenever I catch my friends' girls playing them, I never tell them. Why? Because they'll believe me until their gf lies to them and they will get all mad at me lol.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Please help i think my girl is cheating on me
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LuckyStrike88
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John, your affection for her is clouding your judgement. You probably feel like you don't have enough evidence that she cheated on you and you can't just throw her out because you care about her.JohnBeck said:
Talk to your friend man, it seems like she lives together with you so she would usually be there with you right. Did your friend know she was with your her parents that day? If not he would unlikely be in a position to make something like this up.
It might all seem good to you right now, but trust the people here they know these kinds of situations. She will run you over again in the future, do you really want that pain?
^ This here is all the evidence you need. She got p1ssed off at you. Anyone innocent of such an accusation would sit you down calmly and discuss this. Rather than being p1ssed off at you an innocent person would be worried that you would dump her.JohnBeck said:
Next her. Now!
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
John, even the most liberal pro marriage site out there marriagebuilders would tell you yes she's cheating and to dump her. Failed interview for a life partner.
I know its tough and you probably can't follow the advice but you need to end it. I hope you can do that before she does too much more damage.
I know its tough and you probably can't follow the advice but you need to end it. I hope you can do that before she does too much more damage.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
im at my friend house to talk about the things.. he reads along with this forum post. he says he did not even know she was with the parents and that he is sure he saw her with the guy... he is very angry at her to lie to me when i asked her he want to go talk to her with me together and help me. i trust him he says he will do anything to help me get through this situation we are about to go to my house and talk to my girl...
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
Awesome. I don't know why you can't handle this shyt alone but the fact your friend is willing to confront her to her face is a really good sign.
Stay calm, stay in control, be a rock, be a man. She'll probably get angry, she'll probably try to humiliate you, call you names and then threaten to leave.
Don't react, just let her go.
Make sure you tell us what happened brother.
Stay calm, stay in control, be a rock, be a man. She'll probably get angry, she'll probably try to humiliate you, call you names and then threaten to leave.
Don't react, just let her go.
Make sure you tell us what happened brother.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
I'm losing faith this isn't a troll.JohnBeck said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Igetit!
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So you and your friend...the TWO of you are about to "gang up" and go confront YOUR girl. Hmmm.....JohnBeck said:
Well reguardless of what she says,hell.....reguardless of whether she actually cheated on you or not,you know this will likely be the end of the relationship.
I mean sh1t....how can this chick have two men back her into a corner demanding answers,then afterwards go back to being all "lovey-dovey" with you as if nothing ever happened?
we went to talk to my girl and i was scared to do it my friend told me i should be cool and calm and told me he would say a few things to her and i should just look at her response.. we came in and i was very scared and could not talk he started to talk and say he saw her he was mad at her.. i see she shocked that he said he saw her with the guy..... i got really ****ing mad then and said her did you cheat with me???! and looked at her eyes.. She cried and said everything...... She was very drunk and a guy helped her because she was feeling bad.. Then she kissed him and he said she should sleep at his place...... and because she feels bad she goes to his place and sleep at his house.. then i asked her if something hapend more than just sleep!! she sayss yes they had sex.. i got very mad and kicked the table and trow the tv off the tv table..... i said her WHY i am so good to you i give anything you want!! then she says she loves me but that i do too much for her. what too much i do everything good?!! then she say she yes but it too much and i never complain... i dont understand it why it is not good how i am to her.... she have sex with other guy... she sit on the couch staring and not saying anything crying and i feel bad for her.. i sit next to her and she hugs me says she love me... and she is very sorry. i say her to go to bed and i need to think about it... I love her alot and she love me but why go sex with the other guy?? i dont know what to do i am mad at her but i love her very much.. if any guy can help me here i will thank you alot...
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
I refuse to give advice! There is so much wrong with you that I do not know where to start! I must speak in person if I were to help you change your life. Toughen up, don't be a pushover, care about yourself over her!
YOU come first. YOU are greater. YOU are stronger. YOU have worked harder. YOU are the true person in your life, NOT her.
So much wrong I am questioning the validity of this thread.
But, first thing is first:
Leave her. You cannot, and will not for that matter, be able to become happy or even keep her until you do so. You will never be able to grow or develop as a person. And you will not be able to forget or forgive her for anything else anymore because of this factor. Therefore, leave. You cannot succeed until you do.
YOU come first. YOU are greater. YOU are stronger. YOU have worked harder. YOU are the true person in your life, NOT her.
So much wrong I am questioning the validity of this thread.
But, first thing is first:
Leave her. You cannot, and will not for that matter, be able to become happy or even keep her until you do so. You will never be able to grow or develop as a person. And you will not be able to forget or forgive her for anything else anymore because of this factor. Therefore, leave. You cannot succeed until you do.
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Make the move to Fort Steak Texas.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
It's done OP. Get out now and don't look back.
Take some time away, heal and work on improving yourself.
She is dead to you. Nothing more. Don't try to figure out why, just accept that she is a wh0re and leave her to wallow in her wh0redom.
If you forgive her, you are basically telling her and the world that you have no balls and are weak.
Be strong, do the strong thing, do the manly thing. Leave her and then go straight to the "No Contact Challenge" thread on these boards.
There are many people who know EXACTLY what you're going through and they can help you get through this and move on with your life.
Don't think about the good things in the relationship, focus on the horrible badness and let that be your only influence.
Take some time away, heal and work on improving yourself.
She is dead to you. Nothing more. Don't try to figure out why, just accept that she is a wh0re and leave her to wallow in her wh0redom.
If you forgive her, you are basically telling her and the world that you have no balls and are weak.
Be strong, do the strong thing, do the manly thing. Leave her and then go straight to the "No Contact Challenge" thread on these boards.
There are many people who know EXACTLY what you're going through and they can help you get through this and move on with your life.
Don't think about the good things in the relationship, focus on the horrible badness and let that be your only influence.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.