"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Please help. I feel like she(49/F) will dump me at any moment (22/M).
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
BraddH
Master Don Juan
This may cause you some pain in the future.
If it does, you may be sad and depressed for a couple months.
Nevertheless, you'll grow, and blossom as a man, and have many good times with many different women. Remember the good things that are in store for you, even if its hard to imagine how they will come into being, just know that if you keep marching forward, they will.
We were not meant to be ships of such light construction that the winds of change overturn and wreck us. So find a heavy, solid part of Yourself, and hold on to it when the storm comes on.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
evan12
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even if she didnt break up with you , you have to do that ASAP , what you are doing is wrong and you will regret that later . you are only 22 , and the life is infront of you , you need to have healthy partner that can give you kids and stay along with you .
If you just want casual fun, sure...no issue with that. But I think middle aged folks need to let people in their 20s grow up before trying to lock them in relationships. This goes for both men and women.
Experience life kid. Youll be happier. We do so much growing in our teens and 20s. Im almost 27 and Im still growing as a man. Being locked into a relationship with someone who has a very different outlook on life wouldnt be ideal for me. Hell, Im not even ready for a relationship with women in my age group.
At 22 you have a long way to go partner. Get ready for the ride. Dont be afraid to lose a relationship. Be ready for the doors that it may open.
Stagger Lee
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What is the world coming to? 50 year old women date 18-22 year old guys. You practically have to be a rich celebrity as a 50-year old male to date that much younger. Old 50 year old women's smv is the equivalent of rich celebrity males nowadays I guess.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
And is this woman rich or something? Is she taking care of you since you are living with her? I dont understand this whole arrangement.
fuko2007
Senior Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
5string
Master Don Juan
Leave Ms.Cougar chickie alone.
foreverAFC
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