“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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We didn't want to force the issue by making age posting a requirement, but the list owner and I discussed my suggesting that your age be put in your profile after I brought it to his attention.

There's a real advantage to posting your age. We have an extremely wide range here at SS, from mid-teens (with possibly younger lurkers) to 60-something (and possibly older lurkers, too).

When a person asks me a question, I am very definitely going to provide a different answer to a 20 y.o. than I will to a 45 y.o., as I know the older guy has a certain body of experience and understanding behind him. I get a steady stream of P.M.s here on SS, and very often I have to waste an exchange by asking, "How old are you?".

So IMO, posting your age helps us to know who we're talking to and gives us a rough idea of life experience. Hey, I get away with murder around here, 'cause I know you guys see my numbers and think to yourself, "Ahh... that explains it." ;)

Again, I stress that this is not going to be a requirement, so if you're against posting your age, that perfectly fine. Conversely, if you are neutral or think it's a good idea, why not take a minute, go to your CP and throw your age in there?

My bottom line is that I believe it facilitates understanding between members and subtly aids our ability to help each other, but it's your call.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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But are people going to take me seriously when they find out I'm only 13 years old?
 
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Mantis, if you're really 13 and have that many rep points....I'd take your advice :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The green dots on sosuave are just an ego boost. What a joke.
 
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Updated.
 
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Wow... You guys are OLD! ;)

Thanks for updating.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've always had my age posted. I think it's only fair to anyone reading my posts. It should be mandatory, IMO, though no one is really asking for birth certificates around here to confirm anyone's age. Just nice to have a ballpark idea of where someone is at in their growth/experience.
 
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SamTheHobit said:
The green dots on sosuave are just an ego boost.
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He's right actually. Anyone can come along, learn all the theory and give advice that's gets him repped. It's putting into practice that means everything

Added mine, makes sense to do so
 
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It's a relevant piece of information and in no way negatively affects you on this site. It's true advice for a 40 year old is different than that of a 15 year old. When your young it's all about getting experience, an older man is usually looking for a little more then to just score with anything that moves...

OK let me rephrase that...

OK an older man wants to score with anyhting that moves and also has slightly different motivations...

Yeah that sounds right. maybe sigh
 
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I already updated mine because awhile ago, I posted on the MM section and they went ape**** because I didn't agree with the overall consensus and didn't have my age listed.
 
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Updatet mine too. I think you're right man, it sure helps a lot when you know someones age.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've had my age posted all along. I am so cool, I follow rules even before they are made haha.
 
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