Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Please consider posting your age in your profile

Atom Smasher

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2008
Messages
8,657
Reaction score
6,614
Age
69
Location
The 7th Dimension
We didn't want to force the issue by making age posting a requirement, but the list owner and I discussed my suggesting that your age be put in your profile after I brought it to his attention.

There's a real advantage to posting your age. We have an extremely wide range here at SS, from mid-teens (with possibly younger lurkers) to 60-something (and possibly older lurkers, too).

When a person asks me a question, I am very definitely going to provide a different answer to a 20 y.o. than I will to a 45 y.o., as I know the older guy has a certain body of experience and understanding behind him. I get a steady stream of P.M.s here on SS, and very often I have to waste an exchange by asking, "How old are you?".

So IMO, posting your age helps us to know who we're talking to and gives us a rough idea of life experience. Hey, I get away with murder around here, 'cause I know you guys see my numbers and think to yourself, "Ahh... that explains it." ;)

Again, I stress that this is not going to be a requirement, so if you're against posting your age, that perfectly fine. Conversely, if you are neutral or think it's a good idea, why not take a minute, go to your CP and throw your age in there?

My bottom line is that I believe it facilitates understanding between members and subtly aids our ability to help each other, but it's your call.

Atom
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Mantis Toboggan

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 27, 2010
Messages
859
Reaction score
58
But are people going to take me seriously when they find out I'm only 13 years old?
 

pdx1138

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2010
Messages
1,298
Reaction score
52
Mantis, if you're really 13 and have that many rep points....I'd take your advice :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

SamTheHobit

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 10, 2011
Messages
1,514
Reaction score
95
Location
South Africa
The green dots on sosuave are just an ego boost. What a joke.
 

Alex DeLarge

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 26, 2011
Messages
845
Reaction score
25
Updated.
 

Atom Smasher

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2008
Messages
8,657
Reaction score
6,614
Age
69
Location
The 7th Dimension
Wow... You guys are OLD! ;)

Thanks for updating.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

The Bad Ass Canadian

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 15, 2003
Messages
1,652
Reaction score
20
Location
CAN-NUH-DUH
I've always had my age posted. I think it's only fair to anyone reading my posts. It should be mandatory, IMO, though no one is really asking for birth certificates around here to confirm anyone's age. Just nice to have a ballpark idea of where someone is at in their growth/experience.
 

DanZy

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 11, 2011
Messages
625
Reaction score
18
Location
Johannesburg, South Africa
SamTheHobit said:
The green dots on sosuave are just an ego boost.
He's right actually. Anyone can come along, learn all the theory and give advice that's gets him repped. It's putting into practice that means everything

Added mine, makes sense to do so
 

SgtSplacker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2011
Messages
2,039
Reaction score
504
It's a relevant piece of information and in no way negatively affects you on this site. It's true advice for a 40 year old is different than that of a 15 year old. When your young it's all about getting experience, an older man is usually looking for a little more then to just score with anything that moves...

OK let me rephrase that...

OK an older man wants to score with anyhting that moves and also has slightly different motivations...

Yeah that sounds right. maybe sigh
 

SharinganUser

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 1, 2006
Messages
1,776
Reaction score
50
I already updated mine because awhile ago, I posted on the MM section and they went ape**** because I didn't agree with the overall consensus and didn't have my age listed.
 

TheMusic

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 6, 2011
Messages
207
Reaction score
0
Updatet mine too. I think you're right man, it sure helps a lot when you know someones age.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Groovy

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 21, 2008
Messages
752
Reaction score
22
I've had my age posted all along. I am so cool, I follow rules even before they are made haha.
 
Top