playing TOO hard to get?

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Just a Shot Away

Master Don Juan

Apr 18, 2010

zekko said:
Most of this DJ stuff can be boiled down to "just put yourself out there - if there's interest, go for it, if not, next."

What does that mean, exactly; "put yourself out there"?

And how can you tell if she's interested that quickly? I mean, there's so many girls out there that are just friendly and smile a lot so you can't just go by the standard IOI's. And then there's all the girls who deliberately feign IOI's just to screw with you, and hopefully ask them out so they can reject you for the +1 ego boost.

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.