"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ProtoMan1

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Hey guys, general question here. To cut the story short, there's this HB that I've been interested in and had kept friendly terms with her. We've always been flirting and she has called me a player, definite IOI. She has had a bf before and I'm getting the vibe that she's single now.

We hung out a few times, once she flaked and after that one instance I just cut her off. Fast foward a few months later, we're talking again and she felt really bad about the flake. She gives me mad crazy tests, for example, she invited me to a party on a Friday but wasn't sure if she was going. I told her I couldn't make it and she said, "Too bad, maybe next time."

Now, she has invited me over to her place and drink with her. This is an opportunity that I should seize. Drinks, her place, and the only two of us! Isolation! I'm thinking and getting the vibe that passing her tests and staying a challenge has paid off in some way.

Opinions? Ideas? Thoughts? Tips to further proceed? Thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ProtoMan1 said:
Now, she has invited me over to her place and drink with her. This is an opportunity that I should seize. Drinks, her place, and the only two of us! Isolation! I'm thinking and getting the vibe that passing her tests and staying a challenge has paid off in some way.

Opinions? Ideas? Thoughts? Tips to further proceed? Thanks.
You got this far, what the hell is there to say? Have a few drinks and hit it!
 

MotownMack

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You got this far, what the hell is there to say? Have a few drinks and hit it!
I agree, there isn't much to contemplate here. Go for it.

My last experience like this-we'd been on two dates where I paid, and she kept saying "The next one is on me". Well, I wasn't terribly interested in her-she was nice enough, maybe an HB6-but the conversations were kinda, dull etc. I also don't think she was crazy about me either, but into me enough. That being said, we communicated on and off, but it took about 2 months before the 3rd date actually happened.

She lived with her rich parents, who also had a house in Florida that they went to in the Winters. She said to me: "Well, I still owe you that dinner, what are you doing Sunday?" And then followed with "Oh, and my parents are back in Florida, so you can actually come see what my house looks like after."


I thought the signals were pretty clear here-she wants to take me to dinner, then have me show her my "OH" face. And lucky me, I was right. :up:


Godspeed, my son. :cheer:
 
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