Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hey guys, general question here. To cut the story short, there's this HB that I've been interested in and had kept friendly terms with her. We've always been flirting and she has called me a player, definite IOI. She has had a bf before and I'm getting the vibe that she's single now.

We hung out a few times, once she flaked and after that one instance I just cut her off. Fast foward a few months later, we're talking again and she felt really bad about the flake. She gives me mad crazy tests, for example, she invited me to a party on a Friday but wasn't sure if she was going. I told her I couldn't make it and she said, "Too bad, maybe next time."

Now, she has invited me over to her place and drink with her. This is an opportunity that I should seize. Drinks, her place, and the only two of us! Isolation! I'm thinking and getting the vibe that passing her tests and staying a challenge has paid off in some way.

Opinions? Ideas? Thoughts? Tips to further proceed? Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My Name is Nobody

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ProtoMan1 said:
Now, she has invited me over to her place and drink with her. This is an opportunity that I should seize. Drinks, her place, and the only two of us! Isolation! I'm thinking and getting the vibe that passing her tests and staying a challenge has paid off in some way.

Opinions? Ideas? Thoughts? Tips to further proceed? Thanks.
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You got this far, what the hell is there to say? Have a few drinks and hit it!
 
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You got this far, what the hell is there to say? Have a few drinks and hit it!
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I agree, there isn't much to contemplate here. Go for it.

My last experience like this-we'd been on two dates where I paid, and she kept saying "The next one is on me". Well, I wasn't terribly interested in her-she was nice enough, maybe an HB6-but the conversations were kinda, dull etc. I also don't think she was crazy about me either, but into me enough. That being said, we communicated on and off, but it took about 2 months before the 3rd date actually happened.

She lived with her rich parents, who also had a house in Florida that they went to in the Winters. She said to me: "Well, I still owe you that dinner, what are you doing Sunday?" And then followed with "Oh, and my parents are back in Florida, so you can actually come see what my house looks like after."


I thought the signals were pretty clear here-she wants to take me to dinner, then have me show her my "OH" face. And lucky me, I was right. :up:


Godspeed, my son. :cheer:
 
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