heyguys, I have been dating a girl for a while and we got to the point where we were talking about life stories basically if your using MM (C2 or C3) anyway I had a lot of interest in her and it was fun when we would play this push/pull game, but during this stage she started to do the "playing hard to get" and within one day I just lost complete interest in her. Now I see her and I do not know how to act around her. anyone have advice? I really thought she would be a cool GF, but she just played it wrong.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
playing hard to get
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hit back by playing hard as well, as if that you only care about her as a friend...like all your other friends. Don't act needy as if you want her to be your gf. Show her that you're cool and that YOU are in control; that will probably get her to cut the crap.
Unless you were too pushy and she is trying to tell you that she is not interested...
Unless you were too pushy and she is trying to tell you that she is not interested...
Well, my question was; what can I do to get interest in her back because I ignore her calls and i dont really want to talk to her anymore because I think she just did push/pull at the wrong phase of attraction. So, now I almost despise her. I can see how this can also work if a guy did acting "busy" during this phase; how a girl can suddenly lose interest. \
This really sucks because I do want to like her or feel attraction from her again because we did have a good time.
The reason I felt this way is because she was suppose to call me on sat around 7-730 so we can make plans but she did not call until 10pm, so thats when everything took a crap.
This really sucks because I do want to like her or feel attraction from her again because we did have a good time.
The reason I felt this way is because she was suppose to call me on sat around 7-730 so we can make plans but she did not call until 10pm, so thats when everything took a crap.
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I don't understand what you're trying to do. You don't wanna talk to her, but you want her interested in you. What are you trying to accomplish?
Never leave the phone in the hands of a woman. Most women are lousy with initiating anything. You call her, you make the plans.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
spitkicker
Don Juan
Drop the games man. Just because mystery and david d say you have to play them doesn't make it true.
If you aren't in to her, then don't get with her, simple no?
If you are in to her, then just be fun around her, vibe for deep rapport and escalate. It's all you've got to do.
Playing games back with her is buying into her frame. Definately something you don't want.
good luck.
If you aren't in to her, then don't get with her, simple no?
If you are in to her, then just be fun around her, vibe for deep rapport and escalate. It's all you've got to do.
Playing games back with her is buying into her frame. Definately something you don't want.
good luck.