heyguys, I have been dating a girl for a while and we got to the point where we were talking about life stories basically if your using MM (C2 or C3) anyway I had a lot of interest in her and it was fun when we would play this push/pull game, but during this stage she started to do the "playing hard to get" and within one day I just lost complete interest in her. Now I see her and I do not know how to act around her. anyone have advice? I really thought she would be a cool GF, but she just played it wrong.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
playing hard to get
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Hit back by playing hard as well, as if that you only care about her as a friend...like all your other friends. Don't act needy as if you want her to be your gf. Show her that you're cool and that YOU are in control; that will probably get her to cut the crap.
Unless you were too pushy and she is trying to tell you that she is not interested...
Unless you were too pushy and she is trying to tell you that she is not interested...
Well, my question was; what can I do to get interest in her back because I ignore her calls and i dont really want to talk to her anymore because I think she just did push/pull at the wrong phase of attraction. So, now I almost despise her. I can see how this can also work if a guy did acting "busy" during this phase; how a girl can suddenly lose interest. \
This really sucks because I do want to like her or feel attraction from her again because we did have a good time.
The reason I felt this way is because she was suppose to call me on sat around 7-730 so we can make plans but she did not call until 10pm, so thats when everything took a crap.
This really sucks because I do want to like her or feel attraction from her again because we did have a good time.
The reason I felt this way is because she was suppose to call me on sat around 7-730 so we can make plans but she did not call until 10pm, so thats when everything took a crap.
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I don't understand what you're trying to do. You don't wanna talk to her, but you want her interested in you. What are you trying to accomplish?
Never leave the phone in the hands of a woman. Most women are lousy with initiating anything. You call her, you make the plans.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
spitkicker
Don Juan
Drop the games man. Just because mystery and david d say you have to play them doesn't make it true.
If you aren't in to her, then don't get with her, simple no?
If you are in to her, then just be fun around her, vibe for deep rapport and escalate. It's all you've got to do.
Playing games back with her is buying into her frame. Definately something you don't want.
good luck.
If you aren't in to her, then don't get with her, simple no?
If you are in to her, then just be fun around her, vibe for deep rapport and escalate. It's all you've got to do.
Playing games back with her is buying into her frame. Definately something you don't want.
good luck.