Hey guys, quick question. Theres this girl that im considering going after and we've been texting and whatnot the past couple weeks. i've asked her twice if she would like to grab lunch or just to hang out but she always seems to be busy. i kinda get the feeling that shes playing hard to get and i know thats not how it should be. i dont wanna come off as needy or a "wussy" but i really wanna spend some time with her so i can figure out if shes worth it or not. how can i get her out without coming off as needy? thanks
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
playing hard to get?
- Thread starter duke104
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ollie
Don Juan
Ignore her
Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
you're gonna have to ignore her for at least 5 days or so then out of the blue tell her you're going somewhere and she should join you. Dont ask her to join you TELL her to. It's more commanding.
Ollie
Don Juan
If she tries texting you and knows you're around just give her like one sentence answers saying you're busy and leave it at that. Dont you initiate anything at all tho. Girls like attention and pulling it away makes them jealous once they're used to getting it