A few years ago, there was a good friend of mine who bought himself his first computer. Back then, both of us loved playing games all the time, we could just get together and play the whole day long.
After a while I stopped playing so much and did other things like school and sports and stuff like that. But my friend became really obsessed about his computer games. In the morning he would get up, start his computer, chat a little while, then play till the evening and finally shut down the computer and go to sleep.
I simply didn't get it. He wasn't available for any other activities anymore. I guess he confused his hobby (playing computer games) with his life. The computer became his life. If he lost a game he would even start yelling. It became a highly emotional thing...
A few years later, I found myself falling in love for the first time. I was 15 back then. Well, this girl became my life, I pretty much stopped doing anything else. When she told me that she just wanted to be friends I felt like I had lost the meaning of my life.
A few weeks ago I read one of pooks articles (yes, pook again
) where he wrote that players confused girls with their life because PU was their life.
What is the difference between a DJ and a player? Well, PU is a hobby or love in general should be something like a hobby, like collecting stamps, playing soccer or playing computer games. But how many people start to place their happiness on getting a girlfriend? This is like people sitting in front of their computers for weeks playing WoW, trying to get this epic weapon or something like that.
Again there is this problem of either doing too much or too little. If you for example play baseball but you don't try hard you are not going to be very good at it. If you are passionate about it, you'll be able to get really good at it. You can be ambitious and we all know that girls like ambitious guys. But you can also overdo it!
We are encouraged to take love too seriously. My parents told me to be really nice to girls, I might hurt them or something. Well, guess what, I do Kung Fu and I better stop punshing or kicking or I might hurt someone...
I know that some people really like all this seduction stuff, DHV, neg-hits, mirroring, patterns and so on. Others say, that this is putting the focus on the girl and as a DJ, you are not supposed to do this.
I see being a DJ as being passionate about my life, living out my dreams. Yes, the focus should be on YOU. But have you ever played in a band? If you don't listen to your fellow musicians at all, you are going to mess up the song. Same goes for seduction. Use those tools! Just because you are mirroring her doesn't mean the focus isn't on you. You are seducing her in the first place because YOU want to. It's like a hobby. Learn the rules. Develop your own rules. There is nothing bad about using player techniques, but about being a player in terms of only living for ONS.
I found that 'pook's school' as some might call it, is an excellent attitude and frame. But there should be something inside this frame, don't you think?
So treat your lovelife like a hobby!
After a while I stopped playing so much and did other things like school and sports and stuff like that. But my friend became really obsessed about his computer games. In the morning he would get up, start his computer, chat a little while, then play till the evening and finally shut down the computer and go to sleep.
I simply didn't get it. He wasn't available for any other activities anymore. I guess he confused his hobby (playing computer games) with his life. The computer became his life. If he lost a game he would even start yelling. It became a highly emotional thing...
A few years later, I found myself falling in love for the first time. I was 15 back then. Well, this girl became my life, I pretty much stopped doing anything else. When she told me that she just wanted to be friends I felt like I had lost the meaning of my life.
A few weeks ago I read one of pooks articles (yes, pook again
) where he wrote that players confused girls with their life because PU was their life.What is the difference between a DJ and a player? Well, PU is a hobby or love in general should be something like a hobby, like collecting stamps, playing soccer or playing computer games. But how many people start to place their happiness on getting a girlfriend? This is like people sitting in front of their computers for weeks playing WoW, trying to get this epic weapon or something like that.
Again there is this problem of either doing too much or too little. If you for example play baseball but you don't try hard you are not going to be very good at it. If you are passionate about it, you'll be able to get really good at it. You can be ambitious and we all know that girls like ambitious guys. But you can also overdo it!
We are encouraged to take love too seriously. My parents told me to be really nice to girls, I might hurt them or something. Well, guess what, I do Kung Fu and I better stop punshing or kicking or I might hurt someone...
I know that some people really like all this seduction stuff, DHV, neg-hits, mirroring, patterns and so on. Others say, that this is putting the focus on the girl and as a DJ, you are not supposed to do this.
I see being a DJ as being passionate about my life, living out my dreams. Yes, the focus should be on YOU. But have you ever played in a band? If you don't listen to your fellow musicians at all, you are going to mess up the song. Same goes for seduction. Use those tools! Just because you are mirroring her doesn't mean the focus isn't on you. You are seducing her in the first place because YOU want to. It's like a hobby. Learn the rules. Develop your own rules. There is nothing bad about using player techniques, but about being a player in terms of only living for ONS.
I found that 'pook's school' as some might call it, is an excellent attitude and frame. But there should be something inside this frame, don't you think?
So treat your lovelife like a hobby!
