"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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faiNt`

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(completely different situation/girl than last post(s).)

HB 9 in my math class. We met through some intense EC in the first week of school and as luck would have it, our seats were put directly in front of one another, at the back of the class. Had some fun with that, learned a little about her, she hinted that she didn't like this guy who her friends had been trying to get her to go out with. I didn't take the bait because I wasn't as confident in my abilities as I am now. They went out for a month or longer.

We had group work and like always she comes and chills in my group with a few other friends. I start kino'ing heavily and flirting. I know I'm doing it right up to here.

Recently she broke it off with that guy. I told her we were doing X on Y of this week and she should come. She said she hasn't X'd since she was younger and would love to blah blah. On the same day, I asked her what she was doing Friday, and she replied, "you." (I had said this to her previously before that.)

I followed up by telling her to text me her address and I'd be over Friday. Next day I come in and say that things changed, something came up, I had to cancel Tuesday, but Friday I would be over. She said something like "nahhhah you had your chance." and I replied "haha maybe some other time" to which she responed with a flirty/distant sounding "no/nah/nope."

I feel like that would be two strikes, however I also feel like one strike cancels out because I flaked on her, even if it was legit.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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eaglez1177

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Well what you should do is just keep doing things as you normally would...dont ask her to hang out again though for at least another few days, cuz you dont wanna come off as needy or desperate.

Just shrug the whole thing off, DONT freak out, and keep doing your thing.

Personally, I think this chick is just playin hard-to-get, and is gettin a little kick out of messin around with you (and by messin around with you, im referring to when she said you had your change and all that stuff). If she was TRULY interested, she wouldnt completely ditch you just cuz you flaked on ONE of the two dates you set up with her.
 
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