"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Plate texted me this morning...

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She texted me this morning saying 'Feeling Poorly xxx' obviously she was drinking last night last and is feeling a tad rough this morning so do you think this message was a 'come look after me invite' ??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe. Maybe just wants attention.

If she's really sick you'll go take care of her but likely get no sex.
 

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Well I'm not for that, I messaged her back but had no reply... Oh well maybe she's an attention ***** ... It's one of those girls I just can't figure out, think I might just have too ask her out right what she wants friends or more ... What do you think?
 

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What age is she? Are you having sex with her?

Her no reply indicates attention. They put bait in front of us and we take it...and they lose respect.
 

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She's 21 and I've had sex a few times with her but not for the last month as we haven't really seen each other but keep in contact via phone or text... I replied

" Good, glad you had fun :) now get that cleaning done ... Or do I need too crack the whip mrs Ha! X"

I think she's been a sleep not ignoring me... Can't figure out if we're just friends or more now ... Have I been friend zoned? The thing is when we were seeing each other her ex caught wind that we were seeing each other and went mad couldn't handle it ... So just been laying low... They've also got a 1 year old together it was her 1st birthday yesterday hence her feeling a bit ropey today. Don't know how too approach this, I know she's interested as she always keeps in touch and likes all my social media statuses etc... Is she waiting for me to make a move or what... I'm at a loss guys
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Aesthetix29 said:
She's 21 and I've had sex a few times with her but not for the last month as we haven't really seen each other but keep in contact via phone or text... I replied

" Good, glad you had fun :) now get that cleaning done ... Or do I need too crack the whip mrs ���� Ha! X"

I think she's been a sleep not ignoring me... Can't figure out if we're just friends or more now ... Have I been friend zoned? The thing is when we were seeing each other her ex caught wind that we were seeing each other and went mad couldn't handle it ... So just been laying low... They've also got a 1 year old together it was her 1st birthday yesterday hence her feeling a bit ropey today. Don't know how too approach this, I know she's interested as she always keeps in touch and likes all my social media statuses etc... Is she waiting for me to make a move or what... I'm at a loss guys
When you have plates...you don't worry about any one particular girl.

You're reading way too much into her texting. If she replies...you could always ask her out in a few days and see what she says.

The ex sounds like a plate for her too. Girls always have more plates.
 

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Sounds like she was just checking to see if she had you hooked considering she hasn't seen you in a month.
 

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We also had a long chat on the phone on Friday night 2brs I think... What would be the best course of action too get her interested again ... NC?
 

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Aesthetix29 said:
We also had a long chat on the phone on Friday night 2brs I think... What would be the best course of action too get her interested again ... NC?
Bad move.

Just put her into backup mode, keep on with other girls, forget about her but next time she contacts you try to set up a date. If she declines just say cool call me when you have more free time then go on

You just communicate in a non-jerk way that you aren't keen to waste your time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Okay so I'll just go NC then shall I... Although I have too call round here this week to drop some of her stuff off... Personally I think she likes me, might just ask her out right at least I'll know where I stand hey?
 

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Okay so she texted me back yesterday saying

"Hahaa lmfao so funny u for got to txt back no whip needed so harsh God "

To which I ignored then at 9pm last night she tried phoning me which I ignored also... And it's now 10.40am and she's just texted me saying

"Ignorant ****, you like"

Is this good or bad ? Should I keep ignoring ?
 

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She is starting to feel powerless, good job. Keep ignoring this attention-hoe hoe ho. So far there is no "come over and pound me" context in her BS texts.
 

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Well I want the ball back in my court ... So may just ignore her for a while longer.
 
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