TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Yes I am struggling a bit with this girl, as I've made some mistakes but the attraction is still high.
Obviousley she is important to me to a level that I write this, yes I admit that!
I made a long post about her last week as I got good responses from you guys.
In short. We been dating for a couple of months, in the beginning she showed all 100% signs of wanting a relationship after like 6 weeks. I did everything textbook, perfect and she was all hooked. Then as I wrote earlier we had a small argument and I left her house in a sweet relaxed way. Next day she texts me long story about how she felt bad and I ignored that. I also told her stupid stuff that I was in prison for a couple of days once for fighting and that I could kill a man if he harmed my family, well Idk I was off that day and I know that wasnt a good move, anyway.
We got back together and hooked up again. Then imo she told her parents all about (I assume this because she was eating dinner at her parents house and didnt pick up phone that day) me and after that day things changed. She didnt reacht out so much and we went 6 days of NC until I texted her.
I feel like her parents family and friends tell her that I am not good for her. I strongly feel this, because of what I said and since i am also not dutch, I am arab etc.
She then starts to treat me as a casual fvck buddy calling or texting late at night to come over and I did twice. Then I asked her out for a date and suddenly she is busy the upcoming weeks. It feels like she doens't want to go on a casual date because people around her convinced her that im not good for her, thats really how i feel about it. but I could be wrong. I made a small mistake by calling her out on her being busy that its weird and that I lose interest if someone is to busy for me.
After that I chill and tell her its no problem take her time.
I ghost her and she starts texting again (fear of loss). I ask her out and she tries to reschedule and I tell her I get back to her.
Then NYE I suddenly run in her. really by accident and we go for drinks. Have a great evening and she asks me to sleep at her place but I decline (really game playing). Tell her im busy and sorry I cant today.
Then finally a week later we schedule a date at my house. She told me don't do too much for my birthday please (which indicates to me, I don't want you to spend money on me because I don't want to commit to something) I feel that in my gut. I never tell her anything about relationships, committing, anything at all that could indicate that I want something serious. Just genuine interest and that's it.
It was her birthday earlier that week so I bought her a scarf. I still did it, because I felt it's so cheap to not give her anything.
I cook dinner 2 days ago, we have a great night of laughing, hooking up, talking and relaxing. All positive fun vibes and she says. ''You need a wife, I should come live here'' and ''I think im in love''.
Early in the evening she says, she can't stay the night. I play it cool tell her that its okay if she has to go, being indifferent. We have dinner, hook up and she stays for the night and leaves the next morning. She texts me immediatley after she left the whole day and tells me she has dinner with her mom that evening.
After that dinner she replies with 2 words answer on my comment of what I did that evening. ''sounds fun, great!'' I leave this on read and don't say anything and she also doesn't.
Then we have no contact for a whole full day and today I reach out the next day. ''Hey hope you have a great day as me, I just booked a vacation to the sun like you also did last week. How is your workday going?''
She on purpose reads this text and doesn't replie. So she shows me 'I am ignoring your text'.
She did this twice earlier after days of NC and then after an hour or two replied to me.
You have to understand, the cex is great, she is all clingy over me when were together and I also like her. I have my own house also so thats all good.
I need an answer in how to proceed and what is wisdom here.
I already know the mistakes I made but the most important thing here is how to proceed.
Obviousley she is important to me to a level that I write this, yes I admit that!
I made a long post about her last week as I got good responses from you guys.
In short. We been dating for a couple of months, in the beginning she showed all 100% signs of wanting a relationship after like 6 weeks. I did everything textbook, perfect and she was all hooked. Then as I wrote earlier we had a small argument and I left her house in a sweet relaxed way. Next day she texts me long story about how she felt bad and I ignored that. I also told her stupid stuff that I was in prison for a couple of days once for fighting and that I could kill a man if he harmed my family, well Idk I was off that day and I know that wasnt a good move, anyway.
We got back together and hooked up again. Then imo she told her parents all about (I assume this because she was eating dinner at her parents house and didnt pick up phone that day) me and after that day things changed. She didnt reacht out so much and we went 6 days of NC until I texted her.
I feel like her parents family and friends tell her that I am not good for her. I strongly feel this, because of what I said and since i am also not dutch, I am arab etc.
She then starts to treat me as a casual fvck buddy calling or texting late at night to come over and I did twice. Then I asked her out for a date and suddenly she is busy the upcoming weeks. It feels like she doens't want to go on a casual date because people around her convinced her that im not good for her, thats really how i feel about it. but I could be wrong. I made a small mistake by calling her out on her being busy that its weird and that I lose interest if someone is to busy for me.
After that I chill and tell her its no problem take her time.
I ghost her and she starts texting again (fear of loss). I ask her out and she tries to reschedule and I tell her I get back to her.
Then NYE I suddenly run in her. really by accident and we go for drinks. Have a great evening and she asks me to sleep at her place but I decline (really game playing). Tell her im busy and sorry I cant today.
Then finally a week later we schedule a date at my house. She told me don't do too much for my birthday please (which indicates to me, I don't want you to spend money on me because I don't want to commit to something) I feel that in my gut. I never tell her anything about relationships, committing, anything at all that could indicate that I want something serious. Just genuine interest and that's it.
It was her birthday earlier that week so I bought her a scarf. I still did it, because I felt it's so cheap to not give her anything.
I cook dinner 2 days ago, we have a great night of laughing, hooking up, talking and relaxing. All positive fun vibes and she says. ''You need a wife, I should come live here'' and ''I think im in love''.
Early in the evening she says, she can't stay the night. I play it cool tell her that its okay if she has to go, being indifferent. We have dinner, hook up and she stays for the night and leaves the next morning. She texts me immediatley after she left the whole day and tells me she has dinner with her mom that evening.
After that dinner she replies with 2 words answer on my comment of what I did that evening. ''sounds fun, great!'' I leave this on read and don't say anything and she also doesn't.
Then we have no contact for a whole full day and today I reach out the next day. ''Hey hope you have a great day as me, I just booked a vacation to the sun like you also did last week. How is your workday going?''
She on purpose reads this text and doesn't replie. So she shows me 'I am ignoring your text'.
She did this twice earlier after days of NC and then after an hour or two replied to me.
You have to understand, the cex is great, she is all clingy over me when were together and I also like her. I have my own house also so thats all good.
I need an answer in how to proceed and what is wisdom here.
I already know the mistakes I made but the most important thing here is how to proceed.
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