"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Planning

Sneevox

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After reading a few threads on here, I have noticed something a large amount of you young Don Juans do.

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You plan. You plan for success, you plan for pick ups, you plan for love, and you plan your happiness.

Is it possible to plan such a thing? Happiness? Is happiness a plan, or is it simply a lifestyle?

Could you say such a thing about success, love, manliness, and being a Don Juan?

Of course!

Don Juans do not need to plan such things! They simply know how to live out the lifestyle.

When a Don Juan wants to make a comeback, he does not plan it. He messages that chicky that he wanted to get back with after he fvcked up the relationship before and he gets back with her using all that he has learned.
He does not sit around and think about what he'll say! He does what works.

He does what he learned works!

A Don Juan takes the risks he needs to take so that he can learn from all of his mistakes and, rather than plan what he is going to do, know what he will do when the time arises.

Don't sit around and plan your future! If you're planning for something to happen, that means that it hasn't already happened!

Planning means that there is a chance for FAILURE when things do not go according to plan (not that failing is a bad thing, but planning leaves you stagnant once you fail.)

As Pook and many other great minds stated, "As you think, you shall become."

This means that you need to know of your success before it happens.

Delve into those situations knowing that you are going to succeed before it even happens!

As many would say, A Don Juan does not need to plan because he already knows what to do in every situation.

Namaste.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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AlexLefty

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I'll elaborate in the future.
 
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sid_company33

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Thanks for elaborating on the topic, I'm really starting to grasp the ways of the Don Juan :)
 

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I agree on so many levels. Simply put, Don Juan is a belief that good things will happen to you and if something you want doesn't happen, you have to know that it hasn't happened because something BETTER is going to happen.
 

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I understand what you're trying to say, but Im sorry to admit that I didn't find much value in this post.

Your intended message comes down to one word: ACT

Don't think, don't masturbate, don't hesitate, just ACT.

Unfortunately, your post seems to say, "The Don Juan doesn't plan, because he is a Don Juan, so everything he does is the right thing!"
This is not always true. We often make mistakes that could have been avoided if we had been truly aware.

You seem to say, "The Don Juan has already learned from all his mistakes, so now he understands every situation!"
Well, this is also not true. And it isn't true because every situation we encounter is completely new. There are no repeats. Sure, sometimes situations resemble ones we have encountered in the past, and we can take our lessons from those, but inevitably a Don Juan will encounter something he has never seen, and have to base his decisions on his morals and inner principles.

I get your point. And I agree with the idea. But the fact is, Don Juans aren't superheroes, they're men. And while they tend to be strong, intelligent, genuine men, they are still very human. And unnecessary planning, and self-consciousness, and heartbreak and pain are all part of being human. We can't avoid that, we just need to live with it, and learn from it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sneevox

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LearningSlowly said:
Unfortunately, your post seems to say, "The Don Juan doesn't plan, because he is a Don Juan, so everything he does is the right thing!"
No, more like "Don Juans do not plan because they always know what to do/are ready to learn what to do next time."
 

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I agree with learning. Learning and planning saves time and effort, just doing **** willy nilly because you're a DJ is dumb for me. School isn't going to think I'm a solid student cos I fingerbang a bunch of girls at random, my ability to study consistenly and show up puncttually will.
 
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