Plan of attack and buying time

[RickTheToad]

It seems I may have reached out to too many ladies. I have 31 of them which want to meet up for drinks in New York. So far 19 of them have sent me their cells and I've setup dates with the first four this week. What do I do with the rest in terms of buying time and scheduling them? Of the 19, 7 want to talk on the phone first. There are another 7 I've not responded to yet. What the best way to attack this correctly?

 

[marmel75]

I ran into this issue after a while as well.

Honestly the best bet is to not even text them until you have time to meet up. Otherwise the clock starts on you getting them out on a date before you have time to get them out. Also i would be scheduling triple headers with these women where you set up 3 dates back to back to back...could be same location or places nearby. This way you save driving time and parking money as well.

Also i would stop messaging women online until youve gone through these ones.

 

[RickTheToad]

I ran into this issue after a while as well.

Honestly the best bet is to not even text them until you have time to meet up. Otherwise the clock starts on you getting them out on a date before you have time to get them out. Also i would be scheduling triple headers with these women where you set up 3 dates back to back to back...could be same location or places nearby. This way you save driving time and parking money as well.

Also i would stop messaging women online until youve gone through these ones.

Agreed. I just took the same approach that I did with Match. I just didn't expect so many ladies to reply and want to meet up. I just assumed it would be the same as on Match. Even if 70% of them ghost, I still have to figure out how to manage the 6 others that want to meet up. Going try and say I'm going away for Labor day and move some to next week.

 

[Mr Wright]

Well it all depends on what you're looking for but I filter these girls pretty early into girls that you can probably banged pretty quickly and girls who need longer term dating. Go for the longer term girls second because they are generally more patient. Get the easy ones out first. But as Marmel said, as soon as you engage in a dialogue with these girls, the clock starts and you have to get them out quickly otherwise the bubble bursts. It's a good problem to have.

 

[Tilex]

It's just like job searching. You gotta line up all your interviews in one or two days.
Never over invest in anything until you're hired.

 

[RickTheToad]

It's just like job searching. You gotta line up all your interviews in one or two days.
Never over invest in anything until you're hired.

They're scattered all over the city. That would be nearly impossible to set up them like one after the other. I tried doing that before, and I couldn't get rid of one of them; though we did have sex that weekend. One of the reasons why dating in the city when you live outside the city is a bit harder. However, as I knew already, if I go to the city, I can line them up for first meets. I do not understand why I have success in getting dates and sex in the city, but not in the suburbs.

 

[Glassguy]

Start filtering and recognize signs from the ones showing extremely high interest and the ones who show mediocre interest. That should be your first filter.
Depending on what you are looking for, you may even want to take 4 or 5 of them and just see if they want to come over, enjoy a drink or two at your place. See how that works and go from there.

The more options you have, the more filtering you do. When you start to filter you will see the ones who will chase because you arent blowing up their phone and initiating convo through text.

You can/should filter out to quickly so you dont waste time chatting and dont waste money taking them out for drinks.

You can always say "Sure, I would like to have a drink or two and chat to get to know you more. How is my place on such and such day and what do you like to drink?"
It comes across smooth and natural. IDC if its Tinder, Bumble, Eharmony or Match.........most chicks will be dtf if you play it cool and invite them to your place.

Screw taking 15 chicks out for drinks in a month's time. Save that for the 2 or 3 that show crazy interest and you click with. After you filter them down you might have a few that fall into that category. The others that will come over will make great plates.

and I agree with @marmel75 . Sift through what you have in the next few days/week before you add a few more into the mix.

 

[RickTheToad]

Start filtering and recognize signs from the ones showing extremely high interest and the ones who show mediocre interest. That should be your first filter.
Depending on what you are looking for, you may even want to take 4 or 5 of them and just see if they want to come over, enjoy a drink or two at your place. See how that works and go from there.

The more options you have, the more filtering you do. When you start to filter you will see the ones who will chase because you arent blowing up their phone and initiating convo through text.

You can/should filter out to quickly so you dont waste time chatting and dont waste money taking them out for drinks.

You can always say "Sure, I would like to have a drink or two and chat to get to know you more. How is my place on such and such day and what do you like to drink?"
It comes across smooth and natural. IDC if its Tinder, Bumble, Eharmony or Match.........most chicks will be dtf if you play it cool and invite them to your place.

Screw taking 15 chicks out for drinks in a month's time. Save that for the 2 or 3 that show crazy interest and you click with. After you filter them down you might have a few that fall into that category. The others that will come over will make great plates.

and I agree with @marmel75 . Sift through what you have in the next few days/week before you add a few more into the mix.

Working on it. Didn't think I'd have so much interest, so I just kept on liking.