"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Places to take a girl in Sacramento

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I hope this is in the right forum, not sure where to put it. Anyway, I have had a few dates with this artsy 30 year old lawyer gal, we have made out after each date but have not gone all the way yet. I have gotten mixed advice on whether or not I should invite her to my place for dinner(did that and she countered with dinner and a movie for a third date). Should I try again for Valentines day weekend or something else? Someone suggested an activity date also, take her to a jazz club/bar or something. I know this may sound pathetic but I am kinda new to this area still, and I don't even know where any good jazz clubs are. There is also the second Saturday artwalk, I think the 14th is the second Saturday, but I would rather do something more intimate than fight crowds with her on the next date. Do any locals know of good date ideas in this particular situation? Keep in mind that she is 30, well educated etc. and I am 35.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Okay I think I figured out what I want to do.
 
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Im in Sac also. I like to go for walks around the capitol area if it a casual type of date. Folsom lake is a really nice place to go if you are into the hiking/outside thing. As far as clubs-- that depends on what you were looking for. Social is very upscale and nice and so is Mason's. I haven't been to Mix yet, though I hear its nice because the entire club is on a rooftop. If you head around 21st and P st by the press club, there is a large enclave of people who walk to and from the 10 different bars right next to each other.

Also, you might want to consider the powerhouse in Folsom with their live music on fri and sat. That is the perfect bar for your age group.

PM me if you want more info.
 
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