She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Or this. Really though. There are soooooo many bars and venues in downtown manhattan that you can literally bar hop all night and have a great time. Definitely check out the Bowery area tho.VladPatton said:It's a beautiful night in NYC, man, just walk around, you'll find something. Guaranteed.
I was going to post 13th step as a joke lol. But seriously i think its an alright bar only thing is it can be a really young crowd, although ive taken home about 3 girls from there lol It can get crowded and roudy with the college dudes spilling beer everywhere. I'd say try a bar a block down called the Central Bar, Ive found girls a little older there and it isnt that expensive. First floor is a bar type setting and upstairs is Dancing with Bar.Jaylan said:I usually hang out in near St Marks or W 4th St.
2 faves of mine are 13th Step (early drinking, chilling, beer pong) and then go by the Dark Room. Very dark lighting, good mix of types of people, decent music but VERY loud.
These arent the best, but you said you arent a big spender. And given who your wingman is, I think they are decent spots. 13th Step is almost like a college bar. Most folks are 21 - 28...and theres beer pong and stuff. Lots of cute girls. You can usually meet someone there and then ask if they wanna hit up another nearby spot. The Dark Room though is a tad awkward since the lighting isnt the best.
If you want less loud music, and a little bit more laid back and spacious, you can check out McSorleys or Pianos