"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have always had high standards- higher than most guys. I have always had HB-8-9-10s, with the occasional HB7 if there was something unique about her (smokin body, beautiful face or an accent- yeah I'm a sucker for accents). The girls have had to be the best looking women in the room at any given time.

I couldn't even consider a lower # HB for a one nighter. I always thought it would "leave a stain on my exterior" that the other HBs would see.
Its so bad that my friends bug me about it. And tell me that I need to at least fock one fat/ugly chick to make them feel better.

I finally started to listen to the guys talking about some of thier less than quality women and realize one thing- THEY STILL HAD FUN and it was about thier pleasure- anything she got out of it was a side benifit.

This got me to thinking that I shouldn't be so picky. I don't think I could endure a fat hairy beast, but I guess I could consider lowering my standards just a bit to up the #s and increase the frequency instead of holding out for the HB-8-9-10s.

Am I giving in? Or am I being realistic?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Go after women you are attracted to.

If you try to pursue women "just for numbers", they will sense that you're not really interested...it comes off as uncertainty and it's a turn-off.

I've been in plenty of situations where a girl who would be a "6" or "7" has turned me on...and plenty of "9"s who didn't.
 

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I agree and I do plan on only going for girls I'm attracted to. In the past I would pick them apart right away and I guess to some extent if they were below a HB7 I would bail for fear of ridicule from friends- just because I always felt that they expected better from me. I'm not sure if that makes sense?

Let me try to explain it the oppisite way; I love to land a target that makes my friends jaws drop or the HB that others have tried for and failed. This has happened in the past and I usually end up landing the HB. I did it the first few times to prove a point- I got tired of hear my friends say that the chick was "out of thier league" and did it to prove them wrong.
I am addicted to beautiful women though and I ultimatley hope to find a HB9-10 that is a real person on the inside as well- but not right now I am not looking for a GF.

Wow does any of this make sense???
 

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All right- heres an update;

I have tried to lower the standards some and I am not picking them apart like I used to- I am liking this more.

I even got really drunk one night and went for a "sure thing" she was probably only a 4 or 5. She was not in shape and was some what over weight. I started to fool around with her and realize I was not interested in her at all. So I didn't let it go any further.

Right now I have one occasional BC and I am working on two very nice perspectives- time will tell...
 
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