"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Pissed off... rite now... getting flaked on as we speak

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HB 6... Got this chicks number...

seems like she is really into me... we make places to hang out tonight

SHe seems really into it .... texting me at 1pm asking if we are still hanging out

We text back and forth and she says how excited she is to see me....

I told her i would get there around 9-930 so I called her at 9 to get her adress and no awnser

I went on IM and she is on there .... I imed her and no awnser


WTF it is now 920 and this HB 6 isnt even gonna call and cancel she is just not gonna awnser the phone... dam that is low of the low

I mean if she was gonna flake she could at least let me know instead of just strining me along... wow WTF
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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ever occur to you that she might be in the shower? girls are renowned for running late and not being ready.
 
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So, did you get in touch with her?
 
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For the first time, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt that they didn't purposefully blow you off. However, I think if someone accidentally blew you off, they'd call within a couple days to apologize, I know I would.

First impressions do count for a lot, and it goes both ways. You don't want to be the guy who lets her bail without notice, and you don't want her to think it's OK.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have flaked girls before by accident. Sincerely forgetting or just something came up. Just see if she ever contacts you again. I know it sucks...but go look for another chick in the meantime or go out with your friends.
 
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you sound like a dramatic female.

she blew you off? who cares.

you're rambling on like a female expecting other dramatic females to come in and agree with you.

IE:

ARrocket said:
Still nothing? Not cool.

Do NOT contact her again until she contacts you.
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ok yea so chick completely bailed out on me... Never answered her phone

Never texted or called back

I was like ok whatever


SO ...I called this other chick I was working on and we went out to dinner at applebee's

nothing really big to report... convo was hard to keep going...( felt like the dreaded interview) but I tried my best to tell stories and smile alot

I was really bored and just dropped her off at her house and was like ok well bye hahahaha.... I think she was expecting something else... overall she was a nice girl just not my style.. kinda nerdy

but yea.. the chick completely flaked on me and I honestly did not see it coming at all... usually chicks that flake will give an indication like" call me in a few days to see what im doing... etc"

This girl seemed interested up until the moment she didnt awnser my calls

w/e... that is the magic of spinning plates
 
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actually the first sign was when she texted "are we still gonna go out"
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Nothing happened because you went to dinner with no follow up plan. It's better to risk isolation and have her walk away than to not even try and have such low odds, but maybe you just weren't interested in her? Could be a fattie for all I know.

On the flake, hindsight is 20-20, at the time you didn't think it would be an issue so..... sometimes **** just happens. I just say focus on the 80% that don't flake, niot the 20% that do.
 
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everywomanshero said:
Nothing happened because you went to dinner with no follow up plan. It's better to risk isolation and have her walk away than to not even try and have such low odds, but maybe you just weren't interested in her? Could be a fattie for all I know.

On the flake, hindsight is 20-20, at the time you didn't think it would be an issue so..... sometimes **** just happens. I just say focus on the 80% that don't flake, niot the 20% that do.
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Nothing happened because she was not attracted. Period.
 
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ARrocket said:
Could somebody explain this one??
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OK, she was having doubts about seeing you and projected that into an "indicator question".. She really called to tell you she did not want to go but could not do it so she ended up casting doubt subconciouslly instead..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DonGorgon said:
OK, she was having doubts about seeing you and projected that into an "indicator question".. She really called to tell you she did not want to go but could not do it so she ended up casting doubt subconciouslly instead..
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Exactly.
 
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DonGorgon said:
OK, she was having doubts about seeing you and projected that into an "indicator question".. She really called to tell you she did not want to go but could not do it so she ended up casting doubt subconciouslly instead..
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Can you explain it more? I don't get it, why would she remind him of the plan if she didn't wanna go, she could have just fabricated a bs story to ditch him.
 
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HB6... if she flaked she did you a favor
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lmao thats what i'm saying. Any chick is lucky to go out with me but certainly if she is a hb6 she better have a damn good body and personality.:cool:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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