"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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pissed off gf, what to do?

fanren

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hey bros
yesterday so me and my gf of two months went grocery shopping, she was putting the cart back after i loaded stuff into the car.
i started the car and jokingly drove off, she waved then i turned around and drove off again when she was about to get to the car. i stopped but she just stood there for about 5 minutes and i was eating the beef jerky i got from the grocers.
after i finished eating, she was still standing there so i went out to get her, she was pretty stoic and said "why are you so childish"
we didnt say anything on the way back and i tried to kiss her and she wouldnt kiss back.

anyways should i call her back or have her call first? this relationship is pretty troublesome and im not sure how to break it off without being looked at as too much of a jerk
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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italostud

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Things like that CAN be funny, but if you did it at the entrance to a grocery store where there's lots of people, you probably humiliated and embarassed her.
 

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Like italostud mentioned, your gf probably felt humiliated and i think i shouldn't have made that kinda joke on her.

I suggest u call her and apologize.

I'd add that a good don juan would never put himself in a position where he'd have to apologize, ever!
 

fanren

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hey bros
thanks for the reply
she needed a ride to grocery store so i took her, it was at like 2 am so i doubt she was embarrased, just not a fan of practical joke
so should i call her and apologize or just call her and act like nothing happend(even though she left without saying bye just thanks for the ride)
 

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Originally posted by fanren

she needed a ride to grocery store so i took her, it was at like 2
You got used. Read the Bible. I don't think you have.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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fanren

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long story, it was after we went to watch Sin City, then a grocery store was along the way and she said "could we stop by the grocery store?"

but yeah i been too nice :(
what to do?
 
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