"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
pink shirts
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
superchristx
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If you wear pink shirts and have highlights in your hair, a fuzzy white hat, penny loafers and a livestrong bracelet, it shows you are a pvssy. Get the idea?
It's all about duality, when she looks at you she doesn't know what category to put you in. Know the power of the dark side.
Yeah, it's a girl thing, definitely... not to mention it's getting really old.
Although the whole dark side thing does not appeal to me, I can see why it works. Not all chicks fall for it, far from it in fact, but done properly it's as good as any trick out there.
-Bill
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Unless you're a woman, but given the type of forum this is I'm assuming you aren't.
Ben
but at the same time if ur comfortable with ur sexuality then why be bothered about what people say, if you go out sarging and u wear pink n a livestrong wristband n highlights yet u totally annihilate all the other "tuff guys" then wat difference does it really make???
my opinion is wear what u wanna wear, pink is a confident colour because it shows u do wat u wanna do, guys that dnt wear pink either dnt wear it becuase it doesnt suit them which is fair enuff because pink doesnt suit every1 but if it does and they dont wear it, then its becuase theyre scared they'll be disrespected, have u eva known gals 2 disrespact a guy that wears pink???? i dont know 1!
brosnake
Don Juan
This thread title immediately caught my eye. I have about seven pink shirts. A couple of Polo's and couple of button downs and even a pink work shirt or two. To complete the look I have custom made pink skull print Vans shoes to go with these shirts.
Example of one of my pink shirts:
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I have black hair and dark eyes and I work out. I am definately not intimidating in the classical sense (mostly due to my glasses) but smaller guys do sometimes get out of my way. Its the contrast that's key with wearing pink. Blonde hair or people with lighter features would probably be better served wearing another color. Its the dichotomy that is interests the girls. Girls think, "Interesting. That guy is Different. He has a fashion sense. Is he gay?"
I am constantly getting unsolicited compliements from women about my pink shirts. Last night I got, "you really pull off pink well." No guy has ever even hinted or questioned my heterosexuality (to my face) at a bar/club either. Wearing pink shows you have the upmost comfort in your own sexuality. By the way I got this idea from Swinggcat's eBook, "Real World Seduction." In the book he talks about the concept of 'being a dandy' and how women love men that judge women using feminine standards. Its all about how you present yourself like was alluded to in the previous replies.
syncmaster
Master Don Juan
and a fuzzy white hat.... thanks. LOL. Had to rub it in!?:crackup:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
LOL dood you seriously just described me to a T!!! I have a few salmon (pink) colored shirts, but they have designs all over them, I've got a 1/2 sleeve tattoo, a 5 o'clock shadow, shaved head and most importantly a fuvk 'em all attitude...LOL That was classic.
PIMP
mroriginal
Banned
I agree
but that's just my personal preference. Has nothing to do with self-imposed gender mores or affectations.
Dude, if you like pink, wear it, why bother asking some stupid s**t like that? It's what is underneath the shirt that should carry your game. If you let a shirt weigh you down with self-doubt, it's not the shirt's fault.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
lol even these days baby blue has become a girls color
I'd tell you what I mean, but it's a more advanced realization
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.