"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
After pondering it further, it was two pictures that I read WAY TOO MUCH into. PlayHerMan would call me a b*tch for getting emotional over something so insignificant I'm sure.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Other threads say it's good to have an insecure GF vs a secure one. She is reaching out for a reaction from me by posting these two pictures. I've been an emotionless stone because I've read too much on this site. Don't get me wrong it works very well for seduction and getting a girl to fall for you initially. But once you're in a relationship and her emotions are pulled by you, being emotionless doesn't work I've found. She needs some beta mixed with alpha in this relationship.
I used to be extremely protective of my GFs and I'm learning that just pushes them away. It's a picture; there wasn't physical intimacy in it. She wasn't alone when visiting.
Boundaries are fine in a relationship and cheating is 100% unacceptable.
SgtSplacker
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Problem solved..
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
SamTheHobit
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Snow Plowman
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You made a "forum" ****up your relationship hahahahahah. Ok, so she took pictures of DUDES she used to hang with in college. Whether they used to fool around OR not is irrelevant. Do you not have ENOUGH TRUST in yourself and your woman that she DID NOT CHEAT??? She hasn't seen these people in a long time of course she's going to want to enjoy herself.
An you know why you are ALLOWED to give benefit of the doubt because if something ever did come up, you could non-nonchalantly walk away (if you so choose) and meet another cutie.
I really can't believe you broke up with her (and I'm a guy who doesn't believe in monogamy) I see NOTHING that justified such actions. It only shows a reflection of you.
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Not only is it easier for me to know when i'm in there or not by basically forcing her to speak to me in plain english. But I force her to realize that she actually wants something from me. Thats a big deal with women, they have to realize it's them that wants the relationship. It has to be this way because they are the ones that are constantly being approached by men. You have to keep spinning plates man, it's the only way to show a woman that you really have options. Spin plates and tell her about it... tactfully of course.
Think about it, this is exactly what she is doing to you. You need to flip the script man...
She is posting those pictures because she really doesn't care, she even told you things are not AOK with you two. Pursuit is an unavoidable sign of weakness in this case. If you had options why would you pursue some female that is basically worthless to you because she is so far away? Can't hit it, cant take her out, no companionship...
Speak her language man, it's the only thing she is going to understand. Don't be the chump standing on the sidelines looking for handouts. Go get your own steak to sink your teeth into. Maybe by the time she moves back she will have some respect for you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Then this bull**** started. I'm good at seduction and I was able to get the girl back that said she'd "never been anything more than friends with me" but my relationship game and handling "**** tests" definitely needs work.
PackDaddy
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End of the day - You shouldn't care about women as much. Disrespect = get your a$$ out.
This is how I felt initially and told her calmly it was disrespectful. She agreed, said it's been a problem in the past (no ****) but didn't take the picture down. How do you define what is a **it test and what is truly disrespectful?PackDaddy said:
I'm not upset any more. I'm HAPPIER since we broke up which should be the clearest of signs.