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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Picking up women at beaches [Infield report]

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I've only been to the beach twice this summer so far but both times have met and had a fun time with a woman.
What I've gahtered from this summer and many other summers is this:

1)Weekdays are the best time to go to the beach.. Not as crowded, alot of people who are at the beach are alone or with just one other person.
2)There is no worse case scenario at the beach. Not much else is as fun and as grounding as enjoying sme sun, water and sand.. If you don't find anyone you just have a serene good time for a few hours and relieve alot of stress.. leave feeling amazing.
3) You can start a convo about almost anything.. no one is in a rush to go anywhere, and people who are at the beach usually have the time.
4)Single people are usually feeling a slight degree of missing out when seeing other couples having fun.

The first time I went to the beach this summer: was perfect weather, saw a smokin hot fair skinned latina who was perfectly sunkissed with dark hair.. with some dude who i couldnt tell at fist if they were friends or together. after hearing them exchange"babe" a few times, I realized it was her bf. Ofc,their interaction seemed very friendly regardless and when i got out the water the first time, after her and i exchanging many glances.. she left her spot where her bf was laying down to come 40 meters to walk right in front of me for attention.. she was trying to look her absolute sexiest and I could tell she wanted my attention.. ofc i didnt try anything out of respect to the younger guy. they both were probably around 21-22 yrs old. Was another chick there who was by herself. SHe was one of 3 chicks iseen by herself but the only decent target. She wasnt all that though.

Mini Analysis: So why I thought they had to be friends at firs was she was exchanging many glances back and forth with me. ofc, i see myself as ahandsome dude and i get quite allot of glances when i cut my hair short as it is now.. but Ithikn what really did it was her boyfriend was pretty much a stringbean, despite being a good lookin dude he looked young and frail. I have a bit of a dad bod but my psychique comes off as sexy -- just the right amount of body hair, and a physique that was made in the gym. Its still quite shocking how many girlfriends ive noticed blatantly show their interest/try and garner my attention while with their boyfriends. I feel for those guys in a way but i also remember being so innocent like that, where u dont think an ybad of your woman doing anything or her behavior being unkind due to you being with her/being secure with youreslf and knowing shes yours.

Anyways, I ended up talking to the pale white chick -- opened with something common that was happening -- there was some random white dude who was probably drunk.. KEpt yelling **** out the water at the life guard, mocking him, acting like he was drowning, saying insults, calling him a faggot, a jock, etc.. Dont know what the hell the dudes gripe was but once the dude finally left, the girl had some sentiments for the lifeguard who seemed like a harmless young guy. I basically opened up with her talking about "what was up with that guy? what a ****" .. we chatted, swam a bit, I asked her if she could float on her back and said I couldn't and said i'd try if she could help me.. we break touch barrier, We do some marco polo type stuff. i then tell her how attractive she is adn if she was single, i ask her if she didnt mind us getting closer, we get closer, im talking to her at mere inches, we kinda hug and play aronud a bit more, now very comfortable touching each other.. go back to the sand for a bit.. shes playing with sand putting it on my back and asking to bury me.. we make a sand sofa. I'll save the rest of the details but we made out and i took her back to my place and we f-ed.. Usually id find a lowkey area to do that stuff around the beach somewhere/surrounding grassy areas. but im more mature now and can wait a 20 minute drive before getting down to business.

Second time I went to the beach: Seen many different girls, another weekday so not as crowded-- alot of them were either too young or a bit too old.. I didn't want to risk talking to the potential 18teeners.. so I just enjoyed the vibes, didnt think much of it. swam a bit, this time i had my phone on me and not in the car so I used my phone a bit and was getting ready to leave so I can do other stuff in the day before it got dark.. I end up running into 2 curvy black chicks taking photos using a tripod. As I'm walking toward their directino to go to the area where I parked the girl facing towardsme stares for a good 10-12 seconds, which prompts her friend to turn around and look and as i go tcloser they distracted their gaze. I ended up jus saying "you guys filming something" expecting not to stop and to just exchange a quick sentiment.. but we get to talking, they offer me some drinks, some weed... the more attractive of the two was single and we start messing around , being playful, tocuhy feely.. i went for the straight shooter after getting her number and spending osme more time by texting her and asking her if she was down to continue the fun back at my place.. she didnt wan tto leave her friend so I left.

All in all, just 2 small examples of the potential at beaches.. I wouldn't bother going on a weekend. I find weekdays work best.. around 3-5 pm. No ones in a rush to leave... and theres still plenty of time till the sun sets.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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"Picking up B1tches at Beaches", OP. Work on your Headline Game.
 

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"Picking up B1tches at Beaches", OP. Work on your Headline Game.
haha, I think more than my headline game, I gotta work on taking advantage of consistency. I'll do stuff like this once in a while and then almost never do it again-- usually because if I go back to the beach any other times i'm with friends and not really trying to go out my way to talk to women. Its kinda ideal when you're by yourself imo.
 

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haha, I think more than my headline game, I gotta work on taking advantage of consistency. I'll do stuff like this once in a while and then almost never do it again-- usually because if I go back to the beach any other times i'm with friends and not really trying to go out my way to talk to women. Its kinda ideal when you're by yourself imo.
Why not a bar? The beach is a very soothing environment. The water, sand, sun, perfect temperature, etc. What woman needs a man when she "has it all" in her current environment? Get her when she's drunk, bored, or hot. Not when she's soothed.

If you're going after bikini babes consider pools (when it's 100 degrees poolside), not the beach when it's 75.
 

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Why not a bar? The beach is a very soothing environment. The water, sand, sun, perfect temperature, etc. What woman needs a man when she "has it all" in her current environment? Get her when she's drunk, bored, or hot. Not when she's soothed.

If you're going after bikini babes consider pools (when it's 100 degrees poolside), not the beach when it's 75.
I'm everywhere honestly. Not as much at the beach but based on recent events I feel like I should be at the beach more often. Bars are fine too. Never tried public pools, not really my vibe unless its a pool party.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Never tried public pools, not really my vibe unless its a pool party.
With pools, there's a difference between a basic apartment complex or private home pool party and a commercialized pool party. SoSuave already has a thread about this.


I don't have experience in beach pickup because I have not lived near beaches as an adult. I have traveled to some beach places since I reached adulthood but wasn't doing pickup during those travels.

It has some commonality with pool pickup with physique being so important.
 

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With pools, there's a difference between a basic apartment complex or private home pool party and a commercialized pool party. SoSuave already has a thread about this.


I don't have experience in beach pickup because I have not lived near beaches as an adult. I have traveled to some beach places since I reached adulthood but wasn't doing pickup during those travels.

It has some commonality with pool pickup with physique being so important.
Hey thanks for sharing that. I did some mall game today, will post a thread probably.
 
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