"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Picking up random girls in the street

thedoc

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What "openers" do you guys use? Don't tell me "a real DJ doesn't need openers" or something like that. As much as I agree with that normally I don't really see a way around it in the street. If I were a girl and some random guy tried to start a conversation with me I would know somethings up.

The only normal stuff I can think of is:
1. ask for a cigarette (I don't smoke)
2. ask for the time (if I ask that I can't pull out my phone to enter her number)
3. ask for directions (makes me seem like a bit of a dunce lol)
4. comment on some clothes or something (best one I can think of)
What about when you're driving and you see a girl? lol unless asking for directions, or parking and walking up I can't think of anything that doesn't make you seem like a creep.

Once again, I realize this is probably the most insignificant part of the pickup but some ideas would be nice. Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thedoc said:
1. ask for a cigarette (I don't smoke)
Boring.
2. ask for the time (if I ask that I can't pull out my phone to enter her number)
Boring (and she'll think you're a smoker.)
3. ask for directions (makes me seem like a bit of a dunce lol)
Boring and generic (see a pattern?)
4. comment on some clothes or something (best one I can think of)
Maybe...

My advice: comment on something. Anything. Just don't make it something boring, everyday, and mundane. It's better to come off a little different than it is to come off as generic and boring. Different can be bad OR good, but boring and generic is ALWAYS BAD.

If you really can't think of anything, just ask for her opinion on something a little ridiculous. If you've ever seen/read/heard about "opinion openers" anything in the "Mystery Method", please for the love of god disregard it entirely as you will probably come off as a drunken weirdo.
What about when you're driving and you see a girl? lol unless asking for directions, or parking and walking up I can't think of anything that doesn't make you seem like a creep.
You can drive past, park around the corner, and walk in their direction. It's not creepy if she doesn't know. :up:
 

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Captains right with the last sentence haha it's not creepy if she doesn't know, but the rest is impossible bro.

First lil tip is don't ask for anything that like cost money such as a smoke, join her for a smoke or join her for a drink, you get me?

Captain said anything just don't make it boring and mundane...

Man that is impossible! lol please captain feel free to post an example of something funny and everything that you can just pull off anywhere you may get the opportunity for a great opener and thats great please take it. but 99% of the time you've got nothing at all apart from "hey thats a cool shirt" or "Have you got the time on you please?"

And thats is perfectly FINE! You can't make a perfect opener that makes her think this guys hot, cool, nice, charming, ect.. lol but you can have a opener that starts a conversation that can lead to her thinking that.

An opener is not like a... hard to explain it... It's not a first impression the whole 10 minute conversation is a first impression.

An opener is ONLY a way to start a good, funny, ect.. conversation, an opener is not a way to get her to fall for you, or like you.

Simple fact is don't worry about openers as long as they start a conversation
 

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just go up and intro yourself and go on and have a convo don't worry too much as long as ur entertaining u will be fine
 

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One method that i read up on here is Masculine Power. Which can build attraction and mysteriousness that you can attain in a 20 min conversation in a matter of seconds.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=150895

Also, i know that i think that smoking is unattractive, and most girls would agree with me. I dk maybe they have a smoking fetish (lol) or they smoke themselves, but i wouldn't take the chance. Other than the fact that that doesnt exactly seem like an opener you can build a conversation off of, which is the main goal of openers. lol. The best one would be the last one of the 4, but keep in mind that when you do that you should be GENUINE. So don't bs a comment on her clothes or w/e. A good one would be a visible tattoo that you see (preferably at the lower back. :]) You could make a clever comment on it or something, but that's just a thought that occurred to me. Anyone is free to comment on that.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Welp I'm going to say it how it is...GO UP WITH NOTHING...

But of course that isn't what you want to here and even then you still don't even want to here the lines. Your problem is your mindset, your trying to go in like carbon monoxide. They can't see it coming and it's going to lead to death.

The mindset I have is..."I'm giving her the opportunity to meet me"

So what are some lines???

"Hey your ****ing gorgeous"
"I must say I'm loving your style"
"So what's your adventure's today?"
"Do you know any good places to eat?...I'm thinking about eating human bodies"

Again it's not the lines it's the thought behind what your doing. Getting lines aren't going to help you. Changing your being and expressing yourself 100% with no fear is what will make you effective.
 

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Snow Plowman said:
Welp I'm going to say it how it is...GO UP WITH NOTHING...

But of course that isn't what you want to here and even then you still don't even want to here the lines. Your problem is your mindset, your trying to go in like carbon monoxide. They can't see it coming and it's going to lead to death.

The mindset I have is..."I'm giving her the opportunity to meet me"

So what are some lines???

"Hey your ****ing gorgeous"
"I must say I'm loving your style"
"So what's your adventure's today?"
"Do you know any good places to eat?...I'm thinking about eating human bodies"

Again it's not the lines it's the thought behind what your doing. Getting lines aren't going to help you. Changing your being and expressing yourself 100% with no fear is what will make you effective.
Yeah I know exactly what you mean by mindset and how much of a difference it makes. But for now, I'm definitely not going to try those openers lol. Maybe I'm not ready or confident enough I don't know, but I sure as hell don't see myself saying any of that. I've pushed my boundaries very far but that may be a bit too far for the time being. I completely agree with you on the subject of mindset though, it really is the most important factor.

Wolf said social circle game is easier and he's right. It is a lot easier because you don't have to do anything special, just be yourself.

Whatever, in less than a year I'll never see any of these girls anyway so I'll make the most of every approach lol. I'll post if anything interesting happens.
 

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i like "Hi your cute."

or "Hey im xxx"

or have fun with it and say the first thing that comes to your mind. Have fun with it

No over complicating needed. Its all in the subcom. Just be cool
 

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"Bond. James Bond"

The truth is that it really isn't about what you say so much as how you say it. Whatever you say, say it in such a way that it captures attention. After you've got her attention, talk to her and be fun. Make jokes, ask her for her opinion on something, keep the conversation light and interesting. If you liked meeting her, say so and ask for her number. If not, walk away.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Walk near her and mumble 'Tickle your ass with a feather?' If she grins at you, you are in. If she makes a face and says 'WHAT?' then you say, 'I said, particularly nasty weather.'

A guy I know used to have good luck walking up to a girl and saying 'so, you're a girl, huh?'. Totally stupid, but catches them off guard and makes them laugh.
 
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