"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Picking Up in a University

evolvingnerd

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now, a lot of the information on this site is aimed at picking up the "hot babes"

however, i'm aiming to pick up the more shy girls, who usually sit by themselves or in pairs during lunch
now...can someone point in the right approach to these types of girls?
i'm usually the guy who walks aroudn while eating, appearing to keep busy, always listening to my music btw

i kinda figure i'm not ready \ really interested in picking up the more confident ones who go clubbing and what not yet
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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chicksrock

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are you following the DJ Bible /DJ Bootcamp?
if not please consult these sources.

1) TALK TALK TALK TALK...that's right build on your social skills and talk to strangers, shopkeepers, whatever the fvck.... you should be able to build a rythem that you can become instantanious friends with anyone you meet.

2) you have got the psychology on this all wrong... you should FIRST approach chicks in clubs.....---> then the uni pickups will be easy as cake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

evolvingnerd

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well see the thing is i don't go clubbing, and nor do i like the prospect of going clubbing
so i'm not all that interested in finding chicks who are
that's why i figure i'd aim straight at the target, ie try to meet ppl like me - quieter ppl
 

chicksrock

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i kinda figure i'm not ready \ really interested in picking up the more confident ones who go clubbing and what not yet

you are contradicting yourself...

i don't want to be rude or anything...
but you really have to live and breathe the DJ Bible before you start posting which you OBVIOUSLY have not done.

whats wrong with change huh?
have you really tried to go clubbing "?
how do you know whether you don't like it?
if you have been before, have you given it a proper shot?
have you worked on your dancing?
have you tried to enjoy the music at the club?
have you tried to have fun at the club?

you need to CHANGE yourself dude...
I was exactly like you
i thought i am quieter and blah blah blah and hence i don't like clubbing and the girls are too wild for me

YOU ARE WREAKING WITH AFCNESSS

MAN UP BRO
THAT IS WHY YOU CAME TO THIS BOARD.

see the movie fight club
work on this ..
You can do it!

YOU HAVE MADE NO EFFORT..

so stop making excuses and just do it ..live it ...be it ..
it is not EASY
it takes time
doesn't happen over time..

AGAIN i mention you have not read the DJ tips section of this website..
seems to me YOU HAVE DONE JACK ALL RESEARCH...
please read everything absorb everything...
confirm you have done this
then come back onto this board and post your problems..

your problems just don't make sense.... because if you did all of the above you wldn't be talking such AFC nonsense!
 

squirrels

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You may find that shy girls are a lot more conversation-starved than you'd think and actually have a LOT to say when some bright, energetic, and attractive guy sits down and takes an interest. :)

That may not be all they're starved for, either. :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HuangBei

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You definitely need to read the DJ Bible. Oh yeah, by the way, kino works REALLY well on shy girls. (for kino see DJ bible). I mean...I can't even begin to explain how well it works, especially when you're first meeting them. They can start to fall for you if you do it right. By Jesus, just get started, like these guys said get used to talking to people, using eye contact and a really good idea is to pick up a lot of new skills. You wouldn't believe how amazing this can make you to people. The girl I met that was an artist was supremely impressed at my ability to draw, when I drew her. I gave her the picture too.

So just...well...DO IT!
Peace
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