"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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picking up customers in the lingerie dept of my store

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i was just wondering: is there any way to talk to girls in the lingerie dept of hte store i work at? i know i cant just go up to them and say hi can i help you because ill probably get my a*ss beat (which would be kinda funny lol) but wat would be a good approach? any thoughts? without sounding like a pervert or getting in trouble?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The fact you're in the lingerie department in the first place is a bit weird.
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
The fact you're in the lingerie department in the first place is a bit weird.
sad, but true
 

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hey i tried this once!

i was in the lingerie dept of a clothes store and i approached an hb shopping for panties or something...she was a hot one, and at that time it was when i was just trying to get over my fears of cold approaching and purposely doing very ballsy stuff.

actually, i posted about it here:
Originally posted by h2o
i was helping my mom with shopping today, and while in a dept. store i noticed this cutie in the lingerie isle. she was actually on the phone and turned away from me, looking at panties. haha, i was so nervous.

me: hey (smiled) ...do you think you could call them back?
her: (looked at me, smiled...probably wondering who the **** is this guy...and ended her phone call)
me: hey, i don't usually do this, but...
her: (started cracking up)
me: how old are you? (i didn't want to be approaching a highschooler...i felt awkward enough already)
her: 21
me: ok...what's your name?
her: blah
me: my name is h2o
(i help her pronounce it)
me: so...are you single?
her: well, i'm sort of seeing someone
her: are you from raleigh?
me: yeah, i go to (name of my school)
her: yeah i go to (name of her school), but i hang here sometimes
me: are you gonna be around for the summer?
her: yeah, i'm taking a class at (name of other school)
me: well, why don't you give me your number and maybe we'll hang out sometime
her: ah, ok...it's ###-###-####
me: ok, cool, i'll see ya then
her: hahaha, ok, let me get back to this (lingerie)

i was really nervous during that whole approach, there was no convo, it was so choppy. i mean, wtf am i supposed to talk about in a lingerie isle? my god, i'd never done something like that before...has anyone tried anything like that? i mean, it's probably a great place to meet hot girls, but awkward? how the f**k do you make rapport? i don't know if i would do that again, though i'd probably do better next time.

and why the hell do girls who aren't single give me their numbers? just to get rid of me? i'd rather get rejected than get a useless number. anybody have a similar experience?
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showth...15&perpage=20&highlight=lingerie&pagenumber=2

i never called her because that approach journal was just to get over my fears mainly...and damn straight i accomplished that.

in retrospect, there's tons of girls in other places, so unless you're trying to to test your confidence, i don't think it's a good idea. although, if i ever was to try it again, a real ballsy thing to say would be like, take a lingerie item and hold it in front of her, and just be like "i think this would look good on you,"

at this point where i have completely conquered my fears, i can easily see myself doing that, but it would just be for fun, unless she was already checking me out (but still, why the heck would i be there in the first place).

only for fun and thrills if ever again.

lol
 

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Originally posted by la-migra-is-after-me
i was just wondering: is there any way to talk to girls in the lingerie dept of hte store i work at? i know i cant just go up to them and say hi can i help you because ill probably get my a*ss beat (which would be kinda funny lol) but wat would be a good approach? any thoughts?
This might be a bit cumbersome, but it is much better than nothing.
Get a notebook with a pad. Got into the store and pretend that you are writing something down... at least you will not look very suspicious. If sombody ask you "Can I help you?" well, just say "No thanks, I am fine" :)
Move around your targets and write something down in your notebook if you want to disslove suspicions.
Finally aim on a target. Move close, don't put down your notebook! "Excuse, do you mind if I ask you a question?"
Which is extremely polite and seeing a nobook in from of you, she simply assumes you are ... doing some market reserach.
She says "sure, I don't.. go ahead..". You immediately out down your notebook and go for a light question. Ask something like this " What is your favorite color?"
Whatever she says follow up " ...Your name?" ...then introduce yourself... you may go for "So..Mary.. Do you like _Black_ coffee?"
and after she answer invite her to share a cup of it with you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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hahah

nah the reason im there is b/c i WORK there and i sometimes i see cute ladies shoppping thhere.......in that dept hahaha
 
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