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this is one thing i have yet to figure out and of course, it seems like my waitresses are always really hot too. any advice? anyone done it before??
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Crazy you bring this up now. There is this new waitress at the bar that I'm kinda a regular at. I talked to her last Saturday and found out her schedule. I knew she was working tonight so I went there to watch the NBA game. But, it was so busy, and she wasn't my waitress, I just couldn't get it to work out tonight. I just got home from there and I'm kinda disapointed with my lack of success between her and the two girls I was sitting next to at the bar. Oh well. It's tough man.
Use the search tool. Search for "waitress". There is an old post where some guy laid it all out perfectly. It's a great guide to use, but it's still difficult.
Use the search tool. Search for "waitress". There is an old post where some guy laid it all out perfectly. It's a great guide to use, but it's still difficult.
I just got a hot 23 year old bartenders number tonight (the second time in 2 weeks I got the digits of a bartender that age, and third bartender in 3 weeks) - and I'm 40. The key is to impress them somehow. Have a special talent. Once they are impressed by you, have a purpose to get together again. Then, don't ask for their number, instruct them to write it down. Say "We should get together and do (xyz) - write your number down for me." and hand her some paper, or tell her to dial it into your phone.
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its funny how when you work at the restaurant, hooking up with the waitresses is like the easiest thing ever. haha.
bigneil, whats your special talent? im a little intrigued/confused how you showed her this talent while at a bar. i think the biggest barrier for me is that they just seem so busy. its like i dont get a chance to talk to them really, so i feel like what i say has to be short and very very on point.
bigneil, whats your special talent? im a little intrigued/confused how you showed her this talent while at a bar. i think the biggest barrier for me is that they just seem so busy. its like i dont get a chance to talk to them really, so i feel like what i say has to be short and very very on point.
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Being a bartender, I can attest to that for sure... You're with them 5 days a week, so you get to know each other pretty well. Working in a restaurant is a great way to get your **** wet if you're a relatively unmotivated youth such as myself.oxford comma said:
Although, it's definitely different trying to pick a girl up at a place you don't work, and probably a lot harder if you haven't worked in the restaurant industry before. But most chicks love to go out for a drink after work, you just need to use common sense about when you talk to them. If I had a full bar in front of me and a girl was insistent about having a conversation with me while I'm trying to deal with 20 some odd people, make drinks for them, and make drinks for the servers.. Well, I'd probably be about as annoyed with her as your waitresses are with you.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This is good timing. My last couple of posts have been about this. I recently blew it with a beautiful waitress. One thing I learned for sure is you really can't be passive and just rely on her seeing you all the time. This one pretty much delivered herself up on a plate with me, but her working there killed my game, I worried too much about being "one of those" , the guys who just go in there hit on them and ask for their #. Which happens daily.I also spent too much time wondering how much of her niceness/flirting was because of me or just because of being a patron. I realized way too late it was genuine, considering I was never her customer, I saw her outside of work and she was very excited to see me whereas my friends who were at this place as much as I was got no reaction. I guess its always better to try than to live with regret.
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I heard that before. Restaurants are orgies that serve food. The bussboy is F-ing the waitress. The hostess is F-ing the bartender. The other waitress is F-ing the cook and the manager lol. And so on.Beeblebrox said:
I wish I knew that when I was younger. I would have applied at some restaurants for part-time work.