Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I never had any problems calling some girl two days or longer though. (I never specifically stated 3 days.)Demon said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Why do u always gotta be negative. I dont act out the stuff im thinkin, i was very bored at my desk at work so i just posted wat i was thinking, im not that bad wit girlls cmon now! Im sure its not over with this girl, she told me yea to drinks next week, so i intend on callin her sunday night or monday night to plan that. i dont see how its ruined. I just spew out wat i was thinkin. Not like im sittin at home on a firdya night obsessin baout it, it was 3 on a frid afternoon and i was just thinking, why do u gotta jump donw my throat.Cod3r said:
How about you do something with your life so that you ARE busy instead of pretending to be busy?DJinTraining06 said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Who said im not busy? I still wanna see the chick. I go out with friends all the time and i have hobbies. But i still wanna see the chick, ur missing the pt.TillTheEndOfTime said:How about you do something with your life so that you ARE busy instead of pretending to be busy?
Boschy said:
Then what are you worrying about? You won't come off as depserate unless YOU ARE desperate. That's the point. Do you feel like phoning her? Then do it! Don't follow stuipid "rules". Whether you are desperate or not will be conveyed in due time regardless of what silly waiting games you play.DJinTraining06 said:
Yup ur right. I'm not gonna worry about it. I just called her and she was at a christening. SHe sounded happy to hear from me. she flirted wit me first so i dont think i got anythign to worry bout. Ill act natural what more can i do right?Grandmaster Sexay said:
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
MIKE.T said:
Like I said earlier, popular people usually plan their weekends in advance and are typically busy until sometime during the week. Now you are in a tough spot, do you call her yet again and possibly annoy her or do you sit back in hopes that she'll remember to call you? Do you call and try to set up another meeting to make up from putting it off last week or do just do nothing and play it by ear from her next move (if she chooses to make one). Tough spot.DJinTraining06 said:
Don't say "you said you can't make calls, so I thought I'd give ya another ring."DJinTraining06 said:
Eh im not into these games tho. is it possible to find a decent looking girl who is above this sh*t?Scorched said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Scorched said:
Cod3r said:
Your also the guy who tells me im insecure about my job without having any clue who i am. Brilliant assumptions u make buddy. Life aint so cut and dry or black and white.Cod3r said:
Yes it is, they're more easily found when you don't play the games easier. Be forthright in your intentions, gradually progress your intentions and by all means, sarge a few women at once so you don't focus all of your efforts on just one and overwhelm her.DJinTraining06 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
