Suspens
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
He is only alpha because of celebrity status. The Joe Ordinary of that appearance has no chance with that type of woman.Suspens said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nah, alpha isn't a mindset, it's a position. As you note with the above questions, not all alphas will fit neatly into a "one size fits all" package".MidnightCity said:the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything.
What is your definition of alpha?MidnightCity said:this is a perfect example of the pigeonholed subjective definition most guys have of "alpha"
he looks like a freak, therefore he cannot posibly be alpha lolol
the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything. a mindset that results in power. power that equates to mastery and control over ones own life. its not something tangible. having money doesnt make you alpha. being ripped doesnt make you alpha. having a silver tongue doesnt make you alpha. the mentality that manifests those things makes you alpha. even so, thats merely one facet of alpha. just because you have power over other men doesnt automatically grant you mastery over everything else including women.
The dude reminds me of me when I was a child.MidnightCity said:i didnt watch that documentary. was he not alpha when he was a kid? or was he not alpha as an adult prior to becoming famous?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This brings up a thought. Somewhere out there, I'm sure there is some alpha male who struggles with women. Maybe he is the dominant male, but maybe his social skills are crap and maybe he is one ugly fvcker. I'm sure they must be out there.Midnight City said:as far as my barometer for judging alpha within the context of this forum is success with women.
Yeah, the best guys in a group who are not THE alpha are the upper level betas. And it is not a bad thing to be an upper level beta. You get many of the rewards of the alpha, without as many of the risks.bigneil said:There can be THE Alpha and we can try to be MORE Alpha, but since Alpha is a relative term, saying "an Alpha" is like saying "a Better".
Alpha means the best guy in a given group.