Suspens
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
He is only alpha because of celebrity status. The Joe Ordinary of that appearance has no chance with that type of woman.Suspens said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Nah, alpha isn't a mindset, it's a position. As you note with the above questions, not all alphas will fit neatly into a "one size fits all" package".MidnightCity said:the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything.
What is your definition of alpha?MidnightCity said:this is a perfect example of the pigeonholed subjective definition most guys have of "alpha"
he looks like a freak, therefore he cannot posibly be alpha lolol
the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything. a mindset that results in power. power that equates to mastery and control over ones own life. its not something tangible. having money doesnt make you alpha. being ripped doesnt make you alpha. having a silver tongue doesnt make you alpha. the mentality that manifests those things makes you alpha. even so, thats merely one facet of alpha. just because you have power over other men doesnt automatically grant you mastery over everything else including women.
The dude reminds me of me when I was a child.MidnightCity said:i didnt watch that documentary. was he not alpha when he was a kid? or was he not alpha as an adult prior to becoming famous?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This brings up a thought. Somewhere out there, I'm sure there is some alpha male who struggles with women. Maybe he is the dominant male, but maybe his social skills are crap and maybe he is one ugly fvcker. I'm sure they must be out there.Midnight City said:as far as my barometer for judging alpha within the context of this forum is success with women.
Yeah, the best guys in a group who are not THE alpha are the upper level betas. And it is not a bad thing to be an upper level beta. You get many of the rewards of the alpha, without as many of the risks.bigneil said:There can be THE Alpha and we can try to be MORE Alpha, but since Alpha is a relative term, saying "an Alpha" is like saying "a Better".
Alpha means the best guy in a given group.