Suspens
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
He is only alpha because of celebrity status. The Joe Ordinary of that appearance has no chance with that type of woman.Suspens said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Nah, alpha isn't a mindset, it's a position. As you note with the above questions, not all alphas will fit neatly into a "one size fits all" package".MidnightCity said:the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything.
What is your definition of alpha?MidnightCity said:this is a perfect example of the pigeonholed subjective definition most guys have of "alpha"
he looks like a freak, therefore he cannot posibly be alpha lolol
the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything. a mindset that results in power. power that equates to mastery and control over ones own life. its not something tangible. having money doesnt make you alpha. being ripped doesnt make you alpha. having a silver tongue doesnt make you alpha. the mentality that manifests those things makes you alpha. even so, thats merely one facet of alpha. just because you have power over other men doesnt automatically grant you mastery over everything else including women.
The dude reminds me of me when I was a child.MidnightCity said:i didnt watch that documentary. was he not alpha when he was a kid? or was he not alpha as an adult prior to becoming famous?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
This brings up a thought. Somewhere out there, I'm sure there is some alpha male who struggles with women. Maybe he is the dominant male, but maybe his social skills are crap and maybe he is one ugly fvcker. I'm sure they must be out there.Midnight City said:as far as my barometer for judging alpha within the context of this forum is success with women.
Yeah, the best guys in a group who are not THE alpha are the upper level betas. And it is not a bad thing to be an upper level beta. You get many of the rewards of the alpha, without as many of the risks.bigneil said:There can be THE Alpha and we can try to be MORE Alpha, but since Alpha is a relative term, saying "an Alpha" is like saying "a Better".
Alpha means the best guy in a given group.