Suspens
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
He is only alpha because of celebrity status. The Joe Ordinary of that appearance has no chance with that type of woman.Suspens said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nah, alpha isn't a mindset, it's a position. As you note with the above questions, not all alphas will fit neatly into a "one size fits all" package".MidnightCity said:the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything.
What is your definition of alpha?MidnightCity said:this is a perfect example of the pigeonholed subjective definition most guys have of "alpha"
he looks like a freak, therefore he cannot posibly be alpha lolol
the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything. a mindset that results in power. power that equates to mastery and control over ones own life. its not something tangible. having money doesnt make you alpha. being ripped doesnt make you alpha. having a silver tongue doesnt make you alpha. the mentality that manifests those things makes you alpha. even so, thats merely one facet of alpha. just because you have power over other men doesnt automatically grant you mastery over everything else including women.
The dude reminds me of me when I was a child.MidnightCity said:i didnt watch that documentary. was he not alpha when he was a kid? or was he not alpha as an adult prior to becoming famous?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This brings up a thought. Somewhere out there, I'm sure there is some alpha male who struggles with women. Maybe he is the dominant male, but maybe his social skills are crap and maybe he is one ugly fvcker. I'm sure they must be out there.Midnight City said:as far as my barometer for judging alpha within the context of this forum is success with women.
Yeah, the best guys in a group who are not THE alpha are the upper level betas. And it is not a bad thing to be an upper level beta. You get many of the rewards of the alpha, without as many of the risks.bigneil said:There can be THE Alpha and we can try to be MORE Alpha, but since Alpha is a relative term, saying "an Alpha" is like saying "a Better".
Alpha means the best guy in a given group.