Suspens
Master Don Juan
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
He is only alpha because of celebrity status. The Joe Ordinary of that appearance has no chance with that type of woman.Suspens said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Nah, alpha isn't a mindset, it's a position. As you note with the above questions, not all alphas will fit neatly into a "one size fits all" package".MidnightCity said:the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything.
What is your definition of alpha?MidnightCity said:this is a perfect example of the pigeonholed subjective definition most guys have of "alpha"
he looks like a freak, therefore he cannot posibly be alpha lolol
the same guys who say:
"alpha males have money" did tyler durden have money?
"alpha males are light hearted and funny" is james bond light hearted and funny?
"alpha males have integrity and strong morals" charles manson?
"alpha males are in shape, active, healthy" bill gates? steve jobs?clinton?
this can go on forever
alpha isnt so much a set behaviors or characteristics. its a mindset above anything. a mindset that results in power. power that equates to mastery and control over ones own life. its not something tangible. having money doesnt make you alpha. being ripped doesnt make you alpha. having a silver tongue doesnt make you alpha. the mentality that manifests those things makes you alpha. even so, thats merely one facet of alpha. just because you have power over other men doesnt automatically grant you mastery over everything else including women.
The dude reminds me of me when I was a child.MidnightCity said:i didnt watch that documentary. was he not alpha when he was a kid? or was he not alpha as an adult prior to becoming famous?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This brings up a thought. Somewhere out there, I'm sure there is some alpha male who struggles with women. Maybe he is the dominant male, but maybe his social skills are crap and maybe he is one ugly fvcker. I'm sure they must be out there.Midnight City said:as far as my barometer for judging alpha within the context of this forum is success with women.
Yeah, the best guys in a group who are not THE alpha are the upper level betas. And it is not a bad thing to be an upper level beta. You get many of the rewards of the alpha, without as many of the risks.bigneil said:There can be THE Alpha and we can try to be MORE Alpha, but since Alpha is a relative term, saying "an Alpha" is like saying "a Better".
Alpha means the best guy in a given group.