"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Physically became paralyzed

Shapoopie

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I searched and didn't find anything on this, so bear with me.

Long story short, I went to hold this chick I went out with's hand, but everytime I moved my hand and arm towards hers, it wouldn't move. It moved in other directions, just not the towards het direction.

I've heard of mentally and verbally freezing up, but physically??? How/What can I do to get over this next time it comes up? Also, why does it happen? It's like a "WHAT THE FU¢K" moment... Thanks dudes!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SHakuhachi

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I`ll guess you were afraid of rejection.

Next time you meet her, just do it. Don`t think about - just do it.
 

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apart from that useful tip,

talk about it with friends or even consult your doctor or a counselor... just to ask them about it.

i mean if you really couldn't no matter how hard your tried, if nothing else, that's really interesting.

find out what's going on.

good luck.

delta.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Its tough goinig where you haven't gone before, but...

Visualize...

Pro atheletes will visualize cracking the ball over the fence and then running around the bases. You need to do the same thing. Visualize just grabbing her hand and giving it a reassuring sqeeze and looking into her eyes and smiling.

Visualize it like it will happen. You will be a success.

Then next time you are out, take a deep breath and carry out what you have visualized. Just go through the movements, you are the man and you have every right to grab that girls hand and be one with her. You will have success.





And if you guys have to bust on him for trying, then why bother posting if you're just dissing a brother and not giving him any help.
 

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You either need to do 1 of 3 things.

You have a serious fear of rejection. Im guessing on a physical side.


1. Go for the 3 second rule. Just do what comes to you.....dont analzye it....people on here over analyze.

2. Use the "**** it" attitude. Just go for it.....Seriouslly.....whats the worst thing that could possiblly happen in a "Real World". When you think about it.....its not alot. She might say "Take your hand off me". SO WHAT? If you never shoot you never score.

3. Get your arms taken off as your not using them properly....
 

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It took like an hour before my arm could move towards her, it felt like there was a wall or something blocking it.

But yeah, rocky mtn, that approach works for my golf game, a I had some of my BEST shots yesterday. I can't believe I didn't think of that.
 

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watch/listen to/think of something funny.. it's a matter of you taking yourself too seriously or if you have to, take a drink before you see her
 
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