"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Phoning girls you meet in clubs...

shrewd

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I read that you should usually wait like 3 to 4 days before phoning a girl you met, to stay a challenge/mysterious etc, I was just wondering does this apply to girls you meet in clubs too? because say you're both drunk she may not remember you that well and if you wait like 1/2 a week she may not remember you at all. i THINK she'll remember me, cause we made out and danced for like 1/2 an hr together...but i don't wanna screw this up as it's the first number i've ever gotten.:rolleyes:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I say 2 days, but I don't like to pick up girls in clubs
 

Luveno

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Here's my advice:

Do not worry about screwing up.

Call her and set a date. Make it short and to the point. Be a man.
 

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i've got alot of experience on this one.

heres my advice, sometimes with girls who i had picked up and got there number, i worried too much about "will they remember me?" so i never called. and the number sat there for months until i deleted it.
others i called, not once had they forgotten who i was. BUT here is a little tip which i try to remember to do.

once you score the number say something along the lines of
"when i call you, don't act like like you don't remember me"
that'll help it stick in her mind to remember ur name and everything..
 

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Make something funny about that situation. Say I just watched Swingers and they say to wait four days to call. I was more in the one-day or two-day mood (whichever you choose).

I seriously would call the next business day (If you got it on Friday, I would wait until Monday)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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justsomeguy1984

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cause we made out and danced for like 1/2 an hr together...but i don't wanna screw this up as it's the first number i've ever gotten.
what's the deal man?? if you had the confidence and game to make out with a chick and dance with her for a half hour it is really shocking to me that this is the first number you have EVER gotten.
 
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