"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BuccGuy

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Interesting situation. My 'friend' that I'm after blew me off last week. Avoided me. So I called her up and got the machine. In a friendly voice I told her that if I didn't hear from her the next day I would assume that we weren't friends anymore and I was fine with it.

So the next day she calls me at work and tells me she wasn't dodging me and that we're good. I told her great but I'm busy and to call me that night. I made sure she said she'd call. She said she would but it would be late.

So it's past late now and she hasn't called. Either I mean so little to her that she forgot to call me or she is yanking my chain. I tend to think the latter, I don't think I've been assertive enough with her. I want to be assertive but I don't want to overdo it in this case.

What do you think and how should I approach my next call? Thanks.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You were done when you made an ultimatum on her answering machine. Move on - its over with this one.

There is no next call to make.
 

DonJuanMonk

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Your next approach should be shooting a gun in the background as you are calling her and screaming "YOU BETTER HANG OUT WITH ME OR ELSE."

or you can just forget it her and move on to better prospects.
 
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