phone tag?

[Cloudtopsun2100]

Been dating this girl weekly for 3 weeks now- the dates have been going great- she invited me out to have lunch with her and her parents one day after our third date- I say I can't- really I can't since I was busy then she sounded disapointed so I asked her if she was mad and she was like no - so I tell her to call me back later on since I might have time then but my cellphone goes dead about 20 minutes later and my charger was over at a friends(phone was dead a total of 4 hours)- anyways I felt bad like she'd think I was being super shady or whatever so that night while I was at a houseparty I stepped out to call this other breezy on the phone and decided that I should give the girl Im dating a call just to say hi- so I call no answer and leave a message- it wasn't some drunk off my ass message just a light- hey *HB9* how you doing Im at a party now just wanted to see how you doin- ok (i might have said call me) dont remember then hung up- you'd think she'd have called me back by now i mean all cells have caller id and ****- what might she be doing and what should I do?

 

[Patrick124]

I've learned, they never call if you tell them to.
ever.
And don't leave messages, it makes you more mysterious if you don't let ehr know why u caleld.
and mentionin u were at a party also was a minor mistake, she now knows ur thinking about her even when you're chillin with your boys. But then if she knows u drink, she might be able to explain this with you jsut being horny
god dman the phone is the work of the devil when it comes ot girls. The only good thign about it is setting up dates..but the phone itself is a whoel nother platform to get used to when DJing lol

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

crap. anyone know how I can get out of this dilemma? ignore for few days and not call till tuesday? not answer when she does call back? of all the girls in the holding pattern why couldn't I have called one of the HB6's or something.........

 

[Patrick124]

ahha nah i todl i u that pm u didn't fawk up much, i just went into detail^ so u understood the reasoning behind what i was saying.
follow the advice i said in the pm n i think you'll be golden. peace

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

need to get her off my mind- not gonna go out cause I haven't recovered from the weekend yet but she left stuff at my place and there is no way I can keep myself from seeing it whenever i go in the kitchen...ahhhhhhh

 

[the_bends]

It sounds to me, that she is wanting more from the relationship than you are. I think she's viewing it differently. She asks you to eat with her and her parents. I take that to mean that she's wanting you to eventually be exclusive. I think that by being unavailable for that long, declining the dinner invitation, and calling drunk from a party, you damaged her opinion of you. You need to evaluate what you want from her? Are you just trying to play the field still, or could you replicate her feelings? You need to talk to her face-to-face.

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

I suppose I'd better call her up soon then...she's japanese- I heard you have to be a little more AFC sometimes to deal with asian girls? I'm half chinese so I understand that- of course if next time I call her and she doesn't answer I shouldn't leave a message and make myself scarce huh? I think turning down the lunch invite did hurt me- now I gotta be a bit more AFC this week she's never not returned my call before

 

[jakeyboy]

i think you're getting oneitis for the girl. happened to me before. i panicked because a girl didnt call me back. in my afc days, pretty painful.

i however would suggest you not call her. if she calls back, you know she's got a good IL in you, if not then NEXXXXXXXT her.

 

[Jerky Boi]

Originally posted by Cloudtopsun2100
I suppose I'd better call her up soon then...she's japanese- I heard you have to be a little more AFC sometimes to deal with asian girls? I'm half chinese so I understand that- of course if next time I call her and she doesn't answer I shouldn't leave a message and make myself scarce huh? I think turning down the lunch invite did hurt me- now I gotta be a bit more AFC this week she's never not returned my call before

I hear people say this all the time. Do I need to be more AFC..should I use my "DJ" skills?..guys it's as simple as this. When you truly find that burning desire to rid your life of your worries with women and to get out of that every woman is heaven on earth mode, then and only then can you become a Don Juan. Going back and forth isn't possible. You're questioning everything too much.

In my experiences, when a girl doesn't call you, it can be a number of different things. Don't take it personally or worry about it. You're only going to hurt yourself. BTW, calling from the party to say whats up wasn't really kool. (You say you weren't drunk, but if you can't remember some of the things you said, there's a good possibility you were.) Anyway, I'm not trying to rag on you or anything, but just take it easy. Wait for her to call, and make up that dinner date she had planned like you wanted to. No one likes a bad game of phone tag. It gets old. You're the man. End the games, and go for what you want.

But again, I agree with the bends. She seems like she's wanting more out of the relationship than you are. Although, I really don't know your situation, I suggest you wait for her to call, if not, call her and tell her you want to make up the date.

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

I'm ending this speculation... I just called her back got the Voicemail (either her phones off or she on it) and just f'ing hung up. Balls in her court- she can call back or not her games piss me off and I'm gonna next her if she doesnt call me. Switching gears to that HB8 I had on the back burner.....

 

[jakeyboy]

now thats the attitude ya need! right on mate.

if she doesnt call back, tis her loss, not yours anyway right?