Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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LegendBoy

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Why do girls give you there numbers. When you are quiet blatantly being funny and showing your interest in them? But make up excuses for the date? Is it them wanting some guy to txt them and show em that they are wanted? Do they loathe attention? What is it?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Are you saying that you are getting numbers but you aren't getting dates?

If so, then they are just doing it to get rid of you.
 

LegendBoy

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Bro these girls are in my classes at uni and I sit with with em. They can't get "rid" of me.

I get number then I ask out get some excuse which you know MIGHT be legit. Then next time I see them I act like it never acted. Because they might be playing hard to get.

But in a general sense. Why do girls give a number and then not respond to date?
 

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Listen..timming is key.... I remember I got this girls number in like november, and didnt actually get a date till like March after new years.... i would call and she busy or in different state.. point is.. In March I caught her between boyfriends and ****ed her on 2nd date.. sometimes timing is key.. if they busy.. say something like this "Okay no prob.. i'll give you a call another time and see what you up to" call in a week.. be like hey whats up, whats new.. probably still busy cause not much changes in a week... and then use same line.. maybe try 2 weeks.. then you can call periodically and might catch her on a day where she available or horny and hit it...

i remember one night I and my boy were drunk/horny... called like 70 numbers, and got 2 girls to come through... funny thing, one of the girls i called was my friends home number, his mom picks up..im throwing my game...turns out to be his mom lol.. (keep in mind i dont remember any of these girls so i have to throw bull**** on the phone).. the funny thing (havent told him this) his mom was throwing game back hahahhahahaha (once i found out who it was ofcourse i stopped lol... but it was definatly easier to communicate with older lady hahha)
 

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LegendBoy said:
Bro these girls are in my classes at uni and I sit with with em. They can't get "rid" of me.

I get number then I ask out get some excuse which you know MIGHT be legit. Then next time I see them I act like it never acted. Because they might be playing hard to get.

I don't know if that's really that good an idea man, to act like NOTHING AT ALL happened. It's okay if your only contact with them is the phone or msn, but you know this person in real life. If they ignore your msgs or keep feeding excuses, there's nothing wrong with saying SOMETHING about it. Just don't go all needy and whiney. Just bust on her about it, like "oh there you are...why didn't u fkn return my call the other day... I was gonna say we should [do bla blah]... u would have had a ball...[or anything that makes what u had planned sound like it would have been good]". Then just act like but oh well, u didn't, so your loss...but no big deal, YOU are not bothered by it at all. The impression you wanna give when u bring up her ignoring your txts or not returning a call or giving u some excuse is that you find it kinda WEIRD that someone would not wanna do something with you; it's so "obvious" that doing stuff with you is so much fun that only a "moron" would choose to miss out on it. I'm not saying you should EXPLAIN any of this to her -- DEFINITELY don't do that! -- but this is the kind of impression she is supposed to get, even if in her mind she doesn't use these same words to explain it to herself.

Then, aftewards, just go back to your normal frame, chat to her, make her laugh, have fun etc.

But if you act like NOTHING at all happened, like you never even txted her or called her, in my opinion, that's kinda wussyish.

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Just wanna add, I, personally, am not good at giving the above impression, so I'm not really talking from personal experience. BUT, I had this leb mate who was a MASTER at it. Like, some nights I would do something different to his group, and even if I had best night out, when I'd see him, I'd get the impression that maybe I "missed out" on something by not being with his group. Works pretty much the same with chicks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LegendBoy said:
Bro these girls are in my classes at uni and I sit with with em. They can't get "rid" of me.

I get number then I ask out get some excuse which you know MIGHT be legit. Then next time I see them I act like it never acted. Because they might be playing hard to get.

But in a general sense. Why do girls give a number and then not respond to date?
One that works for me is if you have tried asking them out a couple (but no more) times and they are giving you the "I'm busy bla bla", which may mean just that or it may mean they aren't interested. Say "Arrty.. yeah. My schedule is slowly picking up lately too.. Sense we are both busy right now let's shoot for maybe getting together (SOMETIME 2-3 MONTHS AWAY)." Yes MONTHS. Often times they will be like "well gee no I didn't want to wait THAT long", especially if they are playing you.. You respond: "ok then well you let me know when you are free and I will see where things stand for me"..

Ball is in their court now, leave it at that, don't ask them again... This leaves you with saying "I am interested but I am tired of asking you right now, you aren't worth me asking anymore".
 

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LegendBoy said:
Bro these girls are in my classes at uni and I sit with with em. They can't get "rid" of me.

I get number then I ask out get some excuse which you know MIGHT be legit. Then next time I see them I act like it never acted. Because they might be playing hard to get.

But in a general sense. Why do girls give a number and then not respond to date?
TO GET RID OF YOU.

Jesus you are hard headed. lol

Just because you are in class, doesn't mean S*IT!

If a girl WANTS to be with you and is interested in you, *drum roll please*....


SHE WILL BE WITH YOU.
 

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You really think so?

I don't know man. He says he gets along really well with them, and that's how he got the numbers.
 

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danielzxc said:
You really think so?

I don't know man. He says he gets along really well with them, and that's how he got the numbers.
Never, EVER believe a word that a women TELLS you.

ALWAYS, ALWAYS, believe everything she ever DOES to you.

Actions speak louder than any of her words can EVER say.
 

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Vypros maybe your right who knows. But if I see her in class often you would think she would of said to me oh I have a boyfriend or something along them lines to not give the number. But she gave me the number after like one lesson of chatting.

There are two possibility she is not interested or she is. Simple as that. Its also worth noting once i got this girls number and she straight out said to me I dont want to come out I like another guy. Then i said ok no worries cya and hang up. Two hours later she rings and asks me out I reject it. Then I ask her out twice more until I get a date. Then I get a hook up and all the touching during first date.
So I am not sure. By the way I am asking her out tonight we will see what happens with this one.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Young girls just love hearing their phone ring...so they F-ing give it to anyone who'd take it. It's an ego booster for them to have it ring constantly.

Good news is, if she gives you hers, at least she doesn't think you're a disgusting psycho and may actually welcome hearing your voice.
 

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LegendBoy said:
Vypros maybe your right who knows. But if I see her in class often you would think she would of said to me oh I have a boyfriend or something along them lines to not give the number. But she gave me the number after like one lesson of chatting.

There are two possibility she is not interested or she is. Simple as that. Its also worth noting once i got this girls number and she straight out said to me I dont want to come out I like another guy. Then i said ok no worries cya and hang up. Two hours later she rings and asks me out I reject it. Then I ask her out twice more until I get a date. Then I get a hook up and all the touching during first date.
So I am not sure. By the way I am asking her out tonight we will see what happens with this one.
Just don't start falling for her or you're going to get hurt.

This girl is playing you like a fiddle.
 
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