"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I ran into an old friend from high school. We talked a bit about the old days (which were about a year ago...), but when I asked for her number, she said she never answered it because she was busy with work and school. She did give me her number, though, but I was wondering if what she said was a negative sign.

I know, I might be reading into it too much, but, just need someone else's view on it who isn't an *******. :D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well its really hard to know unless you call her. It does sound like low interest to me as you sense as well.

Nothing lost by calling though right?
 

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yeah nothing lost, give her a call and see if she'll join you for a drink. all the best mate
 

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I called her last night, but we're both pretty busy with work and school at the moment, so we couldn't make any plans. I'll probably call again in a week or so.
 

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Just call it alot, when she picks up say something like "I thought you said you never answer it?".
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I called her last night, but we're both pretty busy with work and school at the moment, so we couldn't make any plans.
You're not listening to your GUT FEELING.

You listened to your gut feeling when you were trying to set something up with this girl. She was giving you hints that she's really not interested in dating you and that's why you came to the conclusion that you're both really busy right now. You're using that as your own excuse hoping that you can prove your GUT FEELING wrong.

Don't you think if she was interested in you, see could find a little bit of time to meet up with you. I'm sure she can find time to go shopping.

Remember...Interested women will make it easy for you and her to get together. ;)
 

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No, we both are really very busy with school and work.

And I didn't ask her out on a date or anything, I just wanted to see if she had any free time this week so we could hang out.

But I might just be arguing because you're right.
 
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