"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Cloudtopsun2100

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there is this Hb I'm dating, she's been perplexing me as of late (got yet another date this saturday)- I've been following the rule of not getting on the phone with a girl too long, besides I don't like being on the phone anyways...its going great and this week she has called me 3 times and I have not called her at all. The thing is I'm used to chatting for about 5-7 minutes per call on average but these last 3 calls- she has seemed happy to call me and enthusiastic but always says stuff like" just calling to see how you are doing" which is her way of cutting the conversation off! It's her cutting off the calls even earlier - now averaging 3-4 minutes.... has she gotten wise to the phone game- is she playing her own? What should I do? Lessen the phone calls more or just stay on present course?
 

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Electraglide

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Man, if I were you I'd would not answer every time she calls. Pick it up once or twice but not every time. Then call her back later. Still keep the convo's short 5-10 mins. and be lite hearted about it all.
 

Maverick001

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Cloudtopsun2100,

I'm presuming that whenever you're talking on the phone with this girl it's to setup the next date, meeting, whatever.

If not, do that and don't "chat" with her on the phone. Chat with her in person.

Cheers,
Mav
 

bignick79

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Yea, i agree, dont answer the phone every single time she calls. I would answer more than i let her leave messages, but it just kinda gives her a chance to miss u a little. I dont think she's playing phone games, she probably just wanted to hear your voice. Women are like that, they gain comfort in hearing the voice of someone they care about.

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