"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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drift king

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I met this HB about a month ago but she had a bf at the time but I got her number anyhow but reluctantly from her part because initially she gave me a fake one.

long story short because she gave me a fake one I didn't call her 3 days after like you're supposed to and waited till now to call out of the blue.

I don't remember if she took my number down or saved it but to increase my chances of her picking up the call I called her from my other number.

I called she didn't pick up, so i called again an hour later. She picked up I said hi and asked if she was busy. She said she was about to go into class and asked who it was. I said who i was/where i met her and should i give her a call later. She said yeh.

my thinking now is that she probably will not pick up later if I call now that she knows whose number it is.

realistically are you suppose to just have the convo you want to with her and let her interrupt and say shes busy and has to go?

rather than asking politely if i should call later..

I just feel now that if i had the convo i wanted with her for just 5 mins i could have convinced her to meet me this weekend.

At present I don't know of her current bf situation hence why i waited a month before I called so it seems out of the blue and not as obvious in case she still does.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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drift king

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well obviously she wont remember me i didn't call till a month later and i used a different number.. duh.
 

drift king

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i think you also mean go for women who don't have bfs at the time?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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drift king

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if you think about it if shes got a bf and she gives you her number its technically cheating.

im not saying that shes interested but point is that circumstances change. moth down the line she may be single who knows but you have a better chance later on then if you call 3 days after you got the digits knowing full well shes not single.

all i wanna know is should you follow through with the call inconsiderate of what shes got going on at the time and wait for her to end the call if shes busy rather than you asking if shes busy?
 

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all i wanna know is should you follow through with the call inconsiderate of what shes got going on at the time and wait for her to end the call if shes busy rather than you asking if shes busy?[/QUOTE]
 

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Move on

What I meant is if she started the BS from the very start, boyfriend on no boyfriend then she will only cause you grief… Just forget her and move on. I kicked my GF of four years out only week for lying. Life is to short.:up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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