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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

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drift king

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I met this HB about a month ago but she had a bf at the time but I got her number anyhow but reluctantly from her part because initially she gave me a fake one.

long story short because she gave me a fake one I didn't call her 3 days after like you're supposed to and waited till now to call out of the blue.

I don't remember if she took my number down or saved it but to increase my chances of her picking up the call I called her from my other number.

I called she didn't pick up, so i called again an hour later. She picked up I said hi and asked if she was busy. She said she was about to go into class and asked who it was. I said who i was/where i met her and should i give her a call later. She said yeh.

my thinking now is that she probably will not pick up later if I call now that she knows whose number it is.

realistically are you suppose to just have the convo you want to with her and let her interrupt and say shes busy and has to go?

rather than asking politely if i should call later..

I just feel now that if i had the convo i wanted with her for just 5 mins i could have convinced her to meet me this weekend.

At present I don't know of her current bf situation hence why i waited a month before I called so it seems out of the blue and not as obvious in case she still does.
 

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drift king

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well obviously she wont remember me i didn't call till a month later and i used a different number.. duh.
 

drift king

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i think you also mean go for women who don't have bfs at the time?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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if you think about it if shes got a bf and she gives you her number its technically cheating.

im not saying that shes interested but point is that circumstances change. moth down the line she may be single who knows but you have a better chance later on then if you call 3 days after you got the digits knowing full well shes not single.

all i wanna know is should you follow through with the call inconsiderate of what shes got going on at the time and wait for her to end the call if shes busy rather than you asking if shes busy?
 

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all i wanna know is should you follow through with the call inconsiderate of what shes got going on at the time and wait for her to end the call if shes busy rather than you asking if shes busy?[/QUOTE]
 

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Move on

What I meant is if she started the BS from the very start, boyfriend on no boyfriend then she will only cause you grief… Just forget her and move on. I kicked my GF of four years out only week for lying. Life is to short.:up:
 

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