"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bandolero

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Is any of you guys into philosophy and can give me some names / examples which I should definitely read?
My focus is on human behavior and thinking.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nietzsche was pretty spot on about human nature. He predicted what is happening with modern society.
 

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I personally find Stoicism very useful and insightful for every day life. Check out Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and Letters From A Stoic by Seneca to start out.

I also find Buddhism and Taoism and easter philosophy in general very interesting and you could argue they touch upon human nature more deeply than anything else, although it requires a massive paradigm shift to understand what they talk about.

Lastly, there's also Existentialism as well, and this is almost entirely about human nature. Nietzsche, Kierkegaard, and Satre might be good places to start. I don't know much about it but it's a subject I intend to explore more.
 
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If you are looking for improving your effectiveness in thinking I recommend reading Objectivist epistemology. A good place to start is with Leonard Peikoff's lectures "The Art of Thinking."

 

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I personally find Stoicism very useful and insightful for every day life. Check out Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and Letters From A Stoic by Seneca to start out.

I also find Buddhism and Taoism and easter philosophy in general very interesting and you could argue they touch upon human nature more deeply than anything else, although it requires a massive paradigm shift to understand what they talk about.

Lastly, there's also Existentialism as well, and this is almost entirely about human nature. Nietzsche, Kierkegaard, and Satre might be good places to start. I don't know much about it but it's a subject I intend to explore more.
Thank you . Thats how I came to philosophy. I read two books about stoicism and later came across Seneca, which I had a lot of thoughts reading or listening.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Book of Proverbs in The Holy Bible.
 

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If you are looking for improving your effectiveness in thinking I recommend reading Objectivist epistemology. A good place to start is with Leonard Peikoff's lectures "The Art of Thinking."

I try to look into this weekend. Since I am new to philosophy I think I have some years to catch.
 

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Thank you for your recommendation, but I am not searching for this specific themes.
I am more into self reflection and ways of thinking, to connect more with me and to understand my taught process.
I have no interest in creating another field to benefit with women, I am good.
 
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